womansplainingitup
Womansplainingitup
womansplainingitup
Jun 5 2015
7

While I’m not thrilled with the whole “chose to be pregnant” aspect, your friend seems to have brought up some very valid personal concerns about not knowing how to respond to you, and is taking a break to figure out her own stress, instead of taking it out on you. Read more

Jun 5 2015
11

It kinda sounds like maybe your friend doesn’t know what to say when you complain about your pregnancy. I can see where that could feel uncomfortable. I agree with Violet that asking for more clarification would be helpful. As you say she’s your best friend I wouldn’t write her off entirely just yet. Her text wasn’t Read more

Jun 4 2015
2

I got it inserted Nov 2013. I basically bled/spotted from mid September to mid December. I was ready to rip the thing out of me.

Jun 4 2015
222

I know a girl who constantly complains about being single and blames it on being heavier than the average woman or on guys being superficial and only liking thin, blonde girls. I’m not saying there aren’t guys out there that only go for those type of women but I do think that if you own your body and are comfortable Read more

Jun 3 2015
148

Then I lay on the platform. Like when I'm transferring at the 72nd street station from the 2/3 to the 1, I lay on the platform.

Jun 3 2015
12

This is what people mean when they say “thin shaming” is a thing and no one believes them. While our society puts pressure on women to be thin, it’s a very particular type of thin. Anything other than that and suddenly they aren’t eating, must be anorexic, are a bad example to young girls, look like they could have Read more

Jun 3 2015
3

I pulled up the “Rules of the Road” and 1.) it hasn’t been updated since 2010, which seems like six versions of Kinja ago and 2.) they are silent on body-shaming so I guess I got nothin’. Read more

Jun 3 2015
3

Yeah they used to be pretty firm about the “no sizes” rule too. Now I see women complaining about their pants sizes ALL OVER.

Jun 3 2015
4

I don’t doubt that you or your family member know their shit. Please know I’m not trying to be rude or condescending. But in the fashion press, anyone who knows their shit calls it Saint Laurent (or to be really pedantic, Saint Laurent Paris). Because that is correct. And calling it YSL is kind of the mark of someone Read more

Jun 3 2015
6

Nah, I didn’t get that from them. What I got from it was “let’s ask the model because she’ll tell us she’s totally healthy and the ad should be allowed.” IMO it doesn’t matter if she’s totally healthy, she still fell under the weight and size requirements and the agency was right to ban the ad.

Jun 3 2015
11

I think they are trying to get some standards because there were model deaths due to anorexia. I’m not sure measuring someone’s BMI is the way to go because of differing body types but I do think they need to address the problem in the industry with eating disorders. There are a lot of models who starve themselves and Read more

Jun 3 2015
21

I am majorly side-eyeing all those comments on that MP article saying that, ACTUALLY, we should ask the models what they think since “they are the ones who are really affected by this.” Read more

Jun 3 2015
67

What difference does it make what she thinks? This isn’t about her, this is about how advertising affects women in general. It’s the Advertising Standards Authority, not the Health and Safety Executive or whatever. Note how the decision talks about how the ad makes her appear, not about what she might look like irl or Read more

Jun 3 2015
22

Honestly I’m glad they explicitly pointed out what they found irresponsible about the photo, rather than just the usual generic “She’s too skinny”, honestly. It actually forces you to think about precisely what *is* an unhealthy level of skinny, which I think is a good thing. I actually have fewer problems with the Read more

Jun 2 2015
1

Stooooooooop singing Astoria’s praises! Everyone will move here and drive up the rent! Tell them it’s full of actual, factual CHUDS and the air is made of garbage farts. Then they’ll leave us alone and we can have it all to ourselves. 😈

Jun 2 2015
3

I went to a catholic school that did the whole custom white dresses too. A few years ago, they let a trans student get a custom pantsuit. It made me feel so happy that they did that for him. And I remember thinking I was going to get punished for wearing white converse with my dress.

Jun 2 2015
2

No, I get your point (and you had a good attitude about it in your OP) I’m just VERY firmly of the mind that schools should not overly dictate matters like this. I think the actual error was in the overstep of their initial stipulation, however dickish (though, hopefully, instructive) her response.

Jun 2 2015
3

Most of my friends are high school friends, 15 years removed from graduation we’re still silly close. But graduation itself was never a big deal, it was just something that happened, and some of us went because our parents wanted us to, some wanted to get dressed up, but a large chunk of us couldn’t care less. Read more