Yeah, that whole stereotypical narrative that gets imposed when a man is the one who cheats in a hetero relationship is so rife with misogyny. People unthinking accept the notion that the other woman is a shameless homewrecking slut while the poor innocent man couldn’t help himself . It’s another one of those…

I wasn’t talking about Shania Twain, and I agree shared parenting responsibilities add an extra layer of complexity to an ex situation. I was talking about the tendency many people have to excuse their ex while demonizing the other man/woman.

True. If you’re considering becoming friends or lovers with someone, and in talking about their past, they display bitter resentment toward the person who “stole” their ex but have much milder feelings about the ex, run. This is a sign of delusion and immaturity.

Thanks!

Back in the 80s, a friend from college invited me to be her bridesmaid. We lived hundreds of miles from each other, and had only exchanged brief letters in the years since graduation. I shouldn’t have accepted, but I thought it would be fun to see her and the people we used to hang out with.

Everyone who rolls their eyes at terms like “rape culture” and “misogyny” is an enabler to this kind of violence.

Anyone who uses the phrase “political correctness” is basically on the same wavelength as fundamentalist Christians who complain about the “war on Christmas.” Yes, we get it, you don’t like the fact that it’s no longer cool to make derisive jokes about anyone who’s not a cishet abled white male. Grow up and adjust, or…

If I were a multimillionaire, I would hire a female scientist to create a specially formulated lube which, when it came into contact with a dick, caused the penis-owner to lose all ability to take Republican/Tea Party/Libertarian ideas seriously. Then I would hire an intrepid and talented troupe of sex workers to…

The gender stereotypes in this are right out of Everybody Loves Raymond. Not one of her better skits.

There are a lot of cops for whom “Bad Lieutenant” functioned as a recruitment ad.

Women of her generation (and, sadly, quite a fewer women younger than her as well) felt they were only being “realistic” (and therefore wise) to play by the rules of rape culture. Before people started calling it “rape culture”, people didn’t see it as a violent worldview, but as natural law, like gravity. Easy enough…

BTW, for anyone not familiar with her work, Nicola Griffith is an amazing writer, whose writing spans multiple genres—historical fiction, sci-fi, and mystery. The awards she has won (Tiptree, Lambda) signify interesting work, rather than awards that only reinforce white cishet male norms.

If there’s any justice, this is how Scott Walker will appear in his next lifetime.

My wife told me recently that one of her exes asked her to dress up and talk like Mr Rogers before donning a dildo. I had not previously known that lesbian sexual Mr. Rogers cosplay existed, but given the cardigans, I guess it makes sense.

A mashup of Little House and the Benders’ 1800s version of Motel Hell would be worth watching. Laura in her prairie dress could be the final girl.

Says something about cultural attitudes that the two fictional couples most often invoked as avatars of romance are Romeo & Juliet, Cathy & Heathcliff, as if jealousy and melodrama furnish proof of “true love.” Senior year in college, one of my housemates got involved with a (practicing) alcoholic and their dramatic…

Even better: pick and eat the dandelion greens, much cheaper than buying greens at the grocery store. You can also dig the roots and dry them, then grind them to make a tea that has a chicory-like taste.

Why isn’t there already a movie or mini-series or whatever about her life?

In a Kill, Fuck, Marry scenario, I’d choose him for Kill. Unless he signed a prenup guaranteeing me half of his net worth ($4.9 billion according to Forbes), in which case Marry.

In case anyone tries to use the “but feral cats kill birds, so getting rid of them is good” argument: