Hell, in a year - in two years - remember to give your friend or relative an opportunity to talk about the person they lost.
I found it really invasive to have other people come up to me and express their condolences. The fact that it was well intended made it all the worse because it was like rubbing salt in a wound and I couldn’t say to them to leave me alone. I was a solitary griever myself. Also the time frame mentioned is extremely…
I like to include a specific positive memory of the loved one. As you mentioned, people often fear their loved ones will be forgotten.
Unless you’re sure that the bereaved is a believer, leave your own religious sentiments out of it.
One other thing - Listen to cues that the person doesn’t want to be reminded of the loss. If you offer condolences and they immediately switch to another topic, that means they don’t want to talk about it.
The key is flexibility to add/remove depending on which you are going, and access, for example putting things in outside pocket of your bag (check-in or carry-on).
From top down:
I tend to dress in layers no matter the climate at either end of my trip. Sometimes the plane is hot, sometimes it’s cold, and sometimes it can’t make up its mind. T-shirt, sweater or sweatshirt, light jacket or sport coat, and sometimes an overcoat. Maybe a light scarf too. Layers make sure I’m always comfortable.
A backpack is useful at every destination, holds your laptop, and won’t be checked at the gate when the overhead bins fill up. Mine always has my tech stuff (adapters, cables, batteries, etc.), my Kindle with a fresh charge and batch of books, and a snack up front. More crucially, I pack some clothes and my dopp kit…
I recently picked up a friend at LAX who’d just flown in from Chicago. She was wearing an overcoat and wouldn’t need it again until she arrived back in Chicago.
This sounds intense, I can’t even imagine what life is like if you live in a swing state where your vote is the only thing the candidates need so they go after you hard and long. That must amplify all the annoyances of campaign season by 100. It’s also a sign that the electoral college has whittled our elections down…
If you, like me, are someone who reads a lot of news, and you don’t want to stop doing so but you also want to survive till 2020 with your brainmeat in one piece, see if you can concentrate on longform stuff (like a dive into different types of public healthcare systems around the world, and stuff like that). I’ve…
Just don’t forget to vote. Please!
this def might work for some, but for those who want to get involved/work on issues/donate to candidates, regulating a healthy news diet is necessary
I wish more people thought about this. I lost a bunch of weight, and I got so many compliments on it that then when I gained the weight back, it was hard not to feel like people were looking at my body and thinking I looked horribly and ugly. After all, if I looked so great 40lbs ago, what does that mean now?
I’m sorry about that. I recognize the necessity of it, I just hate that people have bought into the idea of it. It’s basically rich people telling us that they can’t afford to pay enough for you to have a decent quality of life.
I was already too lazy to ever get a second job, but thanks for alleviating my guilt over it.
It’s about damn time. Don’t work for people who pay so little that you need a second job, work for people who pay enough that the job is all you need. And give the first group of people the finger on the way out.
This is so good. Thank you for giving me permission to forgive myself for never following through with establishing a side hustle. I already spend so many hours on my primary job and commuting that I feel don’t have enough time for my past times, socializing, and self care that I feel are essential to my health and…
I love naan and would eat it with ghee.