Weirdly, it was some guy from Chicago that made the crosses and drove them all the way down to Texas when he heard about these latest shootings. He lost his father-in-law to suicide by gun years ago, and has been making crosses for victims of gun violence ever since. Kind of a heart-touching story, except for the part…
I’ll echo Elbe on your first point - and as for the parents, we care because the kid got the gun at home. His parents are also responsible for this.
All my brothers were bullied in school. But I do remember my dad being pretty involved in their lives and teaching them and guiding them to education and just being present there.
They did that with Noah Pozner (a Jewish Sandy Hook victim) too. Very, very problematic.
Being provoked is often seen as a mitigating factor, sometimes even legally. The shooter may feel that the rejection provoked the attack, but the media shouldn’t validate those feelings.
Trans people are “bullied” constantly (though I think bullying is too weak a word for being described as perverts and abominations, and having laws specifically written to discriminate against you) and I can’t recall any of them going on a rampage.
I had not earlier wished to write of this in the midst of grief but you are absolutely right. Especially given that her tenure here was result of a State Department initiative to increase contact with the Muslim World.
The “shooter was bullied” narrative comes straight from Columbine, where it’s been totally debunked.
Sure, Mr. Pagourtzis. The natural progression from being bullied is murdering scores of others. JFC. I’m so sick of this “my son was bullied” excuse. I was bullied ruthlessly in school, but I didn’t turn that shitshow into a mass shooting. You grow up and realize it makes you stronger. Of course, I’m a woman, so what…
It used to be that crashes and deaths caused by driving while drunk was just considered a part of the inherent risk of driving. People drive; people drink; sometimes bad things happen. Such is life. It took a concerted effort of pissed of moms of dead kids to say that conceptualization was fucked up and it’s not only…
YES YES YES. That’s the real story here- the guns. WTF were they doing with guns within reach of their weird kid. Or any kid. All this bullying and loneliness stuff strikes me as a distraction.
Memoializing Sabika Sheikh with a cross is...problematic.
I cannot imagine what it would feel like to wake up and be confronted with a mass murder perpetrated by your child. That being said, maybe it’s best to lay low for a while? This “sweet child” will see his day in court; save your defense for The Defence and wait for the bodies of his victims to cool.
Nobody ever gives a shit about the women loners.
Maybe if he’d died too I could understand it. They’d be grieving, and people can do fucked up things when they’re grieving.
The media may be reporting that, but people in this area are not buying it. My whole office has nothing but contempt for the shooter’s family trying to play like he is a victim. Most people want the father arrested too- for failing to secure his firearms. People are pissed.
If you are a creepy, harassing asshole, people aren’t not nice to you because they are bullies. They are not nice to you because you are a creepy, harassing asshole.
Re: the “sweet quiet boys”thing.
I don’t know if there is a “right” way for parents to behave and speak out after something like this but this feels gross to me. Apologize for what your child did and then shut up. I’m sure it’s hard to process something like this but it’s just not the same thing as having your child murdered in cold blood, ESPECIALLY…