I hate that I didn’t know this.  She was a gift.

I had zero relationship with my mom but the good thing to come out of it is it’s made me stop and think “what would have been the thing that my mom could have done/said that would have made the difference for me?”before I do or say anything to my kids. Yay for shitty moms, I guess. And you’re totally right - we need…

It sounds like she’s lucky to have you. I’m guessing there are a lot of layers she’s dealing with and I hope you both take care of yourselves. I found “Untangled” both fascinating and comforting because the author mentions SO many behaviors and characteristics that I thought were possibly unique just to my daughter…

Aw, thanks the meaningful compliment. It goes a long way with me - trust! (I’ve been a sole supporting single mom to them for 12 years and I have no one to bounce this stuff off of, so thank you!) You’re totally right about middle and high school years being easy. She’s got 2 older brothers and the oldest is 4 weeks…

Same. Those years, combined with my family’s shitty dynamic (understatement of the year) really messed with me. I’m really sorry to hear about yours. And yeah, I don’t necessarily think or know that it’s any worse now because of social media, but I do know that it’s the source of a lot of her anxiety specifically.

That’s pretty much exactly what I tell my daughter.  Middle school was the worst but at least I got to go home and just have a general awareness of all of the things I was being excluded from, instead of torturing myself by looking at real-time evidence of it.  

Man, is this a timely article. My daughter is going to be 14 next month and I’m squarely in the thick of this with her right now. Over the course of the last 2 years I’ve watched her go from a confident, self-assured, relatively stress-free kid to an anxious, self-doubting, self-loathing, and generally all-around negat…

I’m the youngest of 10 and you’re damn right it’s a lot of kids.  F’ing ridiculous, is what it is. 

Awesome!  

Side note to this disgusting, super-depressing story : if you have any money to spare, no matter the amount or frequency with which you can give it, the journalists at ProPublica (a 501(c)3 org) have been absolutely crushing it the past 2 years. They have blown wide open a number of instances of abuse of power in govt …

Full time single mom of 2 teenage sons here, one who I just dropped off at college last week. We’ve had SEVERAL conversations about the topic of consent. I’ll give their high school props for this: my son told me that during his senior year they devoted a whole 3 week unit of their health/wellness/gym period to…

Allow me to rephrase because they actually didn’t suck at all; they’re really respectful, knowledgeable people. I’ll start again. We booked a tour through a small, highly rated and highly recommended company based in Friday Harbor about 3 weeks before our trip. We didn’t intend to or would ever dream of wanting to…

I just got back from a vacation in Seattle last week (f’ing awesome city - I’m jealous!) and we went on a whale watching boat from Friday Harbor to try to find the Orca pod. No luck (but we got to hang out with a humpback for about 45 minutes!), but the employees on the boat know that pod really well and they had seen…

Thanks a ton, Mara!

Thanks SO MUCH for these accounts! I’m going to get all over this. the two of us recently went to a wine bottle signing by Lisa Vanderpump (don’t judge) and on the way home she asked if I would mind if she posted our picture with Lisa on Instagram. I told her not at all - post away! Then I looked at the picture and…

Aw, thanks for the kind words,  Seriously.  I actually took her to the movie “8th Grade” a couple of nights ago and I’m glad I did because it prompted a lot of great conversations and she said the movie was validating and made her feel less “crazy” (her word).  She has 2 older brothers and we’ve all told her that…

Well, the fact that she’s 5 just about does me in, I gotta be honest. I love age 5, too; it’s one of my favs. When my almost-14 yr old daughter was 8, she came home from school one day and asked me to not put 3 things in her lunch every day because another (fucking asshole) girl in her class shamed her for “always…

What does this judge think that the antis are doing when they show up outside of a women’s health clinic at 6:45am on a Saturday? Does she think they are all quietly praying to themselves? I know of 3 and only 3 who show up every single week to just do that - pray to themselves. The other 10-20 are fucking terrorists…

Traumatizing, right? Mosh pit is a perfect way to describe what it was. Any thing that any one of us can do, whether it’s donate time, money or any other effort to further the cause, is so needed and you know it’s so appreciated that you still help out after escorting during that clown car of a summer. Escorting is no…

Oh, fuck me, I hate them so much. I’ve mentioned on here before that I’m a volunteer escort at two clinics in the city where I live and I gotta tell ya, the forced birther crowd has become downright terrifying. I was an escort in 1988 or 89 during Operation Rescue’s “Summer of Life” or whatever they called it, and I…