I agree. I have a friend who tells me that she likes to "use [him] for what [he's] good for," when it comes to casual hook-ups, and it really bothers me. She often says things about her partners that would really bother me coming out of a man, and I need to bring it up with her. For the record, it seems like she's…

I don't get it, either, and I am always very thankful. I live right next to the city center in the capital of the country I live in (it's a world-known city, but I'd still prefer not to identify it).

It's really not that easy to get someone to say "yes" to sleeping with you. There's a cultural idea that all men are up for it all the time, and a woman can ask any man and he'd jump at the chance. Unfortunately for the women who want that to be true, it's not. I get rejected fairly regularly. It happens.

That was my argument in high school! I felt like once I was out of a youngish age range, it would become more important to have more "conventional" hair and dress, so why not enjoy the weirder shit when I don't have any real responsibilities and my jobs allow it?

There are a few other commenters who have similar circumstances as you (I am one of them!), so try not to feel too alone. I get a little huffy at the "nope, they're all liars" comments, admittedly, but I try to remember that we have a strange cultural narrative surrounding sex, and the more I talk to people, the more…

It's also possible that we have this cultural narrative of how it's impossible for men to go without masturbating, but maybe that's not quite accurate. Perhaps fewer men masturbate as often as popular culture suggests, but they worry that they'll be teased or looked down upon for it, so they lie and say they do it…

I have no desire to. I've tried a few times and it just doesn't appeal to me. I've always had a pretty low sex drive, and I have some issues surrounding sex in general, and so I just don't. I don't think it's dirty, wrong, or shameful, just... not that interesting to me. Orgasms just aren't very important or great…

I hooked up with this nice, cute guy once, and I had told him that condoms were a necessity. Right when it was getting to the point where a condom was going to be needed, he was like, "Do I have to?", and I sat up and was like, "Yeah." He kind of pulled a face and I told him that it was not up for negotiation.

I'm not really interested in non-sports bras (sports bras do just what I want on a budget that's good for me), but thanks for the resource!

I'm pretty happy with what I'm doing, since I don't mind uniboob. I also like the compression of sports bras, because they keep things from moving around, and those look like they'd be too similar to regular bras. Plus, then I'd have to go get fitted, and know my size, and blah.

I'm a pretty solid A cup myself (I think, anyway), and I really don't like going without a bra. I also hate regular bras, because they are uncomfortable, expensive, and kind of act like a shelf, not containment. I hate the feeling of movement on my chest, and it kind of rubs me raw, actually, so I find it kinda…

Yeah, she is sort of both of those things. We used to be friends, but she believes in a lot of these kinds of things (plus, we live quite some distance apart), and I just sort of let the friendship fizzle, since arguing with her would be pointless.

I have an adult friend (acquaintance, really) who believes in Slenderman. She and her mother both claim to have seen him, that he appears around their home, and her son (who is probably about 4 or 5 now?) will likely believe in him, too. She's posted about cleansing the area near her home so Slenderman cannot reach…

I'm learning Czech now, and I have been using "Let It Go/Najednou" as a little study aid. Though I can't sing at all, and "Part of Your World/Tam toužím žít" is a little more in my range, haha. I still really like the song, though. I like that throughout the first part of the film, we see this stiff, cold, deeply…

That's my home state, and yep, anyone who's not out in the oil fields is well aware that you should probably remain not in the oil fields. People are leaving those little towns very quickly, because they are just not safe.

According to Wikipedia, 71% of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows, which is nearly three times as likely as a stranger rape. I was not quite exact in my numbers (I was going from memory when I worked on a crisis line, and I apologize. I should have checked first).

No, sorry, I added a comment because I couldn't edit (I wish I had said it in the original, because I think a few people missed it!). I was trying to explain why people sometimes feel frustrated with this type of response to sexual assault. It's not useless! It's that this tends to be the primary response - "how do…

I wanted to add something to say that this doesn't mean stranger rapes don't happen, because they do! I just wanted to point out that focusing on stranger rapes and druggings isn't the kind of thing that will actually protect most victims of sexual assault, which is what people tend to take issue with on these types…

The thing about this type of response is that it really doesn't address the reality of rape and sexual assault for most women.

I guess the closest for me would be being asked out? It hasn't really happened to me in a very long time (like... maybe over 10 years?). But really, I think I feel best about my looks when I get compliments from someone I'm intimate with in a meaningful way. If I'm by myself, I don't care what I look like. I really…