I agree. I think that’s put very well. (Some of these comments ought to be collected.) That actually is the weakest point of this feminism, the real inability to deal with intersectionality. It’s just not where they are, and I get that. Inexcusable not to recognize the weakness, though, and make room.

I do think the…

The characterization of email in here is also idiotic to anyone...hey Tracy, did you grow up reading nothing but Us and Mademoiselle? I can’t reconcile this chronic shallowness with anything else.

Anyway. Email hasn’t been spam-ridden for years. Email is slow only to people whose thoughts are tiny enough to go into…

So say so. Or find another means of communication. Or acknowledge that this is how your friend is, babe, and deal.

(Also, if they’re sharing an email account, you can bet that any private message will just get read aloud to the spouse.)

I don’t understand why this has your panties bunched.

If you don’t want to send email to a shared account, don’t. Other people are not obliged to communicate in a way convenient to you (or anyone else). Phone or write a letter. Or stop communicating. It’s up to you.

Now she just needs to say flat out that she’s leading the way for young women who’ve been assaulted and then treated like shit by their universities’ Title IX compliance unit.

Also, how’s IU’s Clery compliance these days?

Read history, MM. Bernie is not in a position to tell off Berniebros. The far left crazy every-ist young men always overwhelm the more centrist old guy. That’s the story of the French Revolution and every other revolution. In the unlikely event that Bernie becomes president, he’s not going to be able to control these…

Unfortunately, this is not about “old guard” v. “new guard”. This is about the fact that most (white) women don’t really have to notice sexism and its costs in full until they hit their late 30s-40s, depending on how fit they keep themselves. Or until they become mothers and join the legions of the invisible and…

That is true. Feel free to amend.

You bet they’re old. If you’re a woman and you haven’t been to lunch with a few of them, you should make a point of doing it. They’ll tell you about these power moves and what they’ve had to do, vis-a-vis men, to stay on top. I think you’ll find that knowledgeably combatting sexist bullshit — in a way that has cost…

I didn’t make any argument because your burning, uninformed, and uncritical faith in your data is dumb.
Maybe in a couple of decades you’ll recognize what’s dumb about how you’re handling this, though given the way you write and the points you’re trying to make, I don’t hold out any great hope.
(Your questions about…

Give it another 15 years. Your fuckable years stretch well into your 40s so long as you’re not fat. Towards the end it’s mostly the 60ish guys macking on you. But I guarantee the guys haven’t stopped looking at you “that way” and extending you the bonus miles.

Dear nerdboy who seems to have a limited grasp of the world outside his bedroom,

The data reflect the questions and the minds of the data-collectors, which are in turn influenced powerfully by their own quite limited views of reality. Young men, for instance, reliably pose laughably stupid questions about older people:…

Hur. I’m guessing you don’t have a lot of middle-aged women among your friends. Get older and hang out with nice sweet clerical 50something women and you’ll hear stuff that belongs in Susan Brownmiller, only they didn’t read any books to get there.

Women do eventually notice how hard they’re getting fucked over and…

Wow - that is a rough and early way to get it, but you’re smarter than most will be for decades, so good for you and your child.

I caucused for Bernie. I’d been solidly for HRC for years, but as the campaign wended on it became clear that her organization was for shit, that she couldn’t hire, and that the clown kids…

She’s wrong, but not as wrong as she sounds. When she says women radicalize, it’s because when they’re younger they don’t get the full brunt of sexism’s force. You get bonuses for being young, fuckable, available. Once your last fuckable day comes and goes? Good fucking luck holding on to anything: you’d better be…

That is hysterical. Thank you so much..

God, I learned this only after I’d had a kid. Judy has wisdom. She also has the right amount of patience. I learned this very late in the game, which is why it took me ten years to stop trying to be nice and friendly and gentle with my ex husband, who did nothing but be a childish misery in return. Now I just take the…

Oh man. It would make my life better for months if someone gave me a cake like that. I’ll have to remember it for friends in need.

I’m very hopeful that our governor here is paying attention, and that when people start going to jail for actual long times, he’ll decide he’d rather not finish out his life that way.

You’re more than half the world away, buddy. In-state tuition and half a dorm room at a state college will set you back $20-25K/year if you’re lucky. Please now spare us your cry of “how does anyone go to college?” The answer is that the kids become indentured servants well into middle age and the parents can’t…