This feature stated pretty plainly that the niceness is a facade she finds tiresome. Begone. 

you’re just proving my point, my dude

so miserable

Ellen hates her own fucking show and her brand of “kindness.” This is known. This is fact. She is incredibly wealthy. She’s getting older. She should let The Ellen Show die.

Alcohol was banned from family celebrations for many years on both sides of my family. We’d do the major Catholic holidays together—Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter—and we’d often have a lot of birthday celebrations, too, since all my aunts/uncles/cousins lived in the same county. After the objectors passed,…

I know some people for whom AA has been successful, and what is interesting to me is that none of those people are particularly religious. Their groups encourage them to substitute whatever they want for “God.” For some, it’s just the rooms/the community itself that is their higher power. With that being said, I also…

You read the headline and just figure “well fuck it, I’m miserable, I’m going to try and spread that wherever I go”?

I DO know! And yet, somehow, it’s never the route they take...

I mean there is a still sizable portion of people who this information is helpful. 

We were actually trained to spot the signs that someone had shit their pants and hidden the evidence somewhere in my residential program. That’s how common it was. You had to be like, “Now, no one here is mad, we all understand how terrifying it is to poop in unfamiliar places, we just need to know where you’ve stowed…

Client retention was not my area. I kept them alive in the woods. But although not everyone stayed, we didn’t lose that many clients. The bucket was only used for certain areas of the wilderness. Some clients made it through the program without using it once, some had to use it for multiple weeks. 

Tacking on here because it’s from the same job:

Ha! No. I mean, I got one half-hearted “sorry about this” as he handed me the supplies and he said something about me being at the “bottom of the totem pole.” 

More of a community bathroom than a public bathroom but I figure I’ll share my trauma. I got a terrible migraine when I was working at a residential treatment facility and got (rare) permission to stay behind while they went to a service project. While they were gone, somebody else (and I don’t say this to judge him,…

I am lucky enough to teach at a secular private school and will admit that, ethically, it feels a lot nicer than it would if I taught in a private religious school! But I don’t know any teacher who is getting a pay bump for hybrid teaching this fall. Distance learning was difficult enough—this is going to be a total…

I just keep my $200ks in little wads tucked into the pockets of my back-of-the-closet/don’t-know-when-I’ll-wear-these-again tuxedos for safe keeping.

She recommends keeping three to five weeks of living expenses in your checking account, and at least three to six months in savings.

It’s not that easy to switch to public school teaching. I would love to teach in public school because it’s what I believe in. In Massachusetts, that means 1-2 more years of schooling and debts to be certified. We’re already up to our eyeballs in student loans, and I spent 7 years getting a PhD, so I’m not ready to…

I’m all for calling out the ways that racism intersects with mental health crises in non-white populations but I still fail to see what this has to do with Jen. You don’t treat a white person who has a mental illness badly because you correlate mental illnesses with black people. Minority groups and white people have…

The idea that the person struggling is a bad friend because she’s not doing things she used to so (a literal symptom of the disease she has) is a bad friend is SO, SO ONE SIDED, PRIVILEGED, AND RACIST.