Boooo. I hate the phrase the race card. Usually when people mention race, especially in terms of the justice system, it’s valid, because historically, justice has been anything but for people of color. It also is unfair for people of lower means, which in this country, typically translates to people of color.

My understanding is that it’s part of the court rules on decorum - everything must be as neutral as possible and be focused on the law and justice. So outbursts, displays of support etc are not allowed...

They’ll say it wasn’t “proven” and that the jury got it wrong.

Now that a powerful man has been found guilty in a court of law, I wonder if all those “INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY!!!!!” people will have anything to say.

I agree. J think she’s capable of some really good work but loses it often enough to make me frustrated.

I just got a full body shudder reading that. It completely explains his self-righteousness in the face of so many assaults, it’s like an internalized, split personality Madonna-Whore complex. Bill Cosby isn’t a rapist, “he” is.

Huh. I was trying to figure out which “he” he was referring to....

I like bits such as that. They’re SUPPOSED to make you uncomfortable. If you aren’t uncomfortable and suddenly questioning past interactions and relationships then you’re probably a sociopath.

Another big issue is financial security. Honestly, rent is too high to breakup for many couples in major metropolitan areas. It is easy to tell someone to leave when you have a home to go back to that you can afford.

It’s really common for victims of sexual violence to continue sleeping with their offender as a way to normalize the experience in their minds and give themselves the perceived power or rationale that that they had agency in what happened to them. Like Amy, I was assaulted in my sleep but with someone I didn’t even…

i thought it was a gray area when my ex-fiancee told me that if i was asleep and “looking sexy” that he had a right to my body.

From the quotes, it seems like for her the gray area was that the perpetrator was someone she was in a relationship, rather than a random attacker. It’s unfortunately pretty easy to not see that you can be raped/assaulted by someone you’re in a relationship with. But it looks like she doesn’t consider it a gray area…

I’ve seen her do this bit in person and it’s amazing. She points to the ladies in the audience and is like “we’ve all been graped, right ladies?” and you just hear every woman in the room like “yyyyyyup.” And then she let’s it sit for a second and says something to the dudes. I don’t remember what exactly she said,…

A lot of women downplay their experiences. “Well it was that bad...” or “it’s not like what so and so went through.” I do the same thing, I feel like what happened to me was minor, to be clear it was not rape but it was sexual assault. It’s hard to admit that. I don’t think I’ve ever spoken those words out loud when…

I think she considers it a “gray area” because she’s giving him the benefit of the doubt that he wasn’t completely aware about how “consent” works (and to be fair, we’re still pretty awful about discussing and teaching the concept consent even to this day).

I had consensual sex with the guy who raped me. I didn’t want to admit to myself that the dude I thought was a great guy was a rapist. And I bought his weak excuse, because I wanted to believe he was a great guy. Women don’t want bad guys, we want good guys. We want good guys so much, we’ll try to convince ourselves…

I remember an advice columnist telling a letter writer to break up with her terrible, terrible boyfriend and then saying, “It’s easy for me to say. I don’t love him.”

And if that anger is triggered and expressed, we are called crazy bitches.

Does it help to know that you are not alone. And that many of us know how you feel and stand with you, in spirit? I hope for you peace, and love. You are already very courageous.

I also felt really angry...It’s like a rage that has stayed with me. I don’t think you lose that. Nope, you sure don’t. I’ve been living with it for so many years.