Serious question of my life: Can enjoyable and healthy coexist? It's the well know trade-off between security and insecurity, isn't it?

I don't care about her weight - but knowing of her having a relationship with an abuser, THAT's the total turn off for me

vivid knows this is "provocative" to say the least..it's basically a PR stunt for them (not that they wouldn't release such a tape, though)

A couple of times I accepted people who I did not really like, and give them some time - as soon as it turned out that, yes, they are still AH, I unfriended them..also doesn't make me feel mature...

Interesting - don't you feel like hiding an important part of yourself from them?

That's true, on the other hand I would feel bad when I prefer people not ignoring my posts, but would do it to them. I don't mean ignoring really bad posts, I wouldn't even accept people into my friendlist who would post sexist/racist stuff, but for instance I have some vegans in my group and although I sympathize…

I don't accept friend request from people who I think should really not see my profile, with some exceptions. Like I wouldn't want too young kids reading about rape or the like - though I might be a bit harsh with that, I just want to feel minimally comfortable when I post things..

Hmm...I guess because of my feminist views, which I feel are not extreme but many do, according to this post I would need to somehow censor myself. Though to be honest, I don't see why I should do so? People simply can "unfollow" me if they don't want me in their feed

True, but I also have often experienced men as generally overly possessive. It's really strange to me that seemingly modern guys still would expect me to do as they want, regardless of what would be best for me...

Agree, especially since these men don't really care about the genuine discrimination many men do experience, as growing up with a totally toxic stereotype of manhood which would explain many things as male suicide or alcoholism, but tend to twist arguments just to play the victims, for things they're NOT the victims