That’s so great that you got better, though! Did it just kind of disappear? I feel like the ice pack between my legs has become part of my identity. I have a secret stealthy one that I use at work. My vagina is always freezing. I’m hoping that at some point it will just obliterate my nerves down their and cure me…

I saw pelvic pain specialists for physical therapy and it made the pain so much worse. I stuck with it for several months, but my therapist eventually admitted there wasn’t much she could do if it wasn’t helping. Botox is one of the few things I haven’t tried. I’m still working on getting my insurance to cover it.

It completely depends on the person! When scientists finally get funding to research vulvodynia seriously, they will probably realize it is 50 different conditions with different causes and treatments. My pain is nerve pain. It’s inside my vagina (can’t wear tampons or have penetrative sex) and right smack on my…

Does anyone else on Jezebel have this? Pudendal neuralgia/ vulvodynia/etc? I’ve had it for years and it’s awful. I have ice on my crotch as we speak. Funnily enough, I've had two doctors recommend I get pregnant to see if it makes it better. HAH.

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So your view on this is that being married to a person that raped another person is a worse crime than being a rapist? I’m really trying to understand this argument. I’m a rape victim. I know what it’s like to be taken advantage of by a man in power. But I would never blame his wife for it. She didn’t believe me, but…

Oh, fuck this. Why the hell do we feel the need to blame HER for a single damn thing her husband did or did not do? Believe it or not, women are separate entities from their husbands.

I’ve been wondering about that as well. Vita was in an open marriage, but I don’t know that Virginia was.

I never understood that. I mean, she married a Jewish man and STILL despised Jewish people. What the hell, Virginia.

Also, if you need to continuously take medicine. Medicine abroad is REALLY difficult.

The friends I know who travel around like this generally have connections (like family or friends) overseas. Money, interestingly, has very little to do with it. Part of the ability to travel comes from not having a lot to leave behind, so being single with a dead-end job helps. One of my friends is continuously…

I find it generally comes from people who are not in a life situation to be able to do a similar thing and a deep resentment is harbored.

Yup. My mother (~10 years older than you) pulled me aside one day and asked me in absolute befuddlement if women really wax off their pubic hair. She looked in pain just hearing about it. And rightly so! Waxing really fucking hurts, shaving inevitably results in razor rash and stubble, and laser hair removal is…

That’s really cool! I have an audiologist in the family that loves Frank Sinatra, so she’ll get a kick out of knowing that he helped sponsor a school for the deaf.

Do you have a website with more information about the school Frank Sinatra opened? Google is failing me.

I was going to say this. American tourists get a kick out of school uniforms.

When I was a teenager, every single guy I dated was a jerk about my pubic hair. They were always very embarrassed for me (it was like I had spinach in my teeth or toilet paper stuck to my shoe) and would inevitably ask me to shave it off. When I refused, one boyfriend called me abnormal. A lot of women in the comments…

I know, right? This is the number one complaint I hear from men who don’t like women to have pubic hair. And it’s like, I’ve never had this problem. Hair does not grow on the clitoris or get in the way of it. Are they trying to stick like the entirety of the vulva in their mouth?

Men really can be jackasses if you choose to keep your pubic hair. I think this is especially true for inexperienced guys that are already freaked out about navigating a vagina. It’s like, they won’t reject the sex. But they will politely suggest you shave at some point. And when you refuse, they will become angry…

Yolanda, is that you?