Yes! A friend introduced me to this method last year, and it changed my entire approach to traveling.
This is what I do for all my vacations. People think I’m crazy when I show them a big map with all the things I might want to do but it’s the best. If I randomly end up checking something out in a different part of town, I can always pull up my phone and see if there’s anything around I marked as being interested in.
Create your own custom map using Google Maps for your vacations too.
For larger towns Eater is your friend. They got the hot new places listed, mainstays, and usually some budget lists as well, Along with a map of where they are. Very good for finding your special meals.
I got my own city (Miami) as a result, and while, yes, that is pretty akin to going abroad for some people (hell I know people here who avoid sections of the city because they say it feels like another country), I specifically wanted cities outside US.
I selected the following choices:
Something else its missing - road trip or some way to track/filter for distance. A lot of the places suggested would require flying. And even though i said i wanted to keep it domestic, it gave me a ton of places out of the country.
(I’m laughing at the mention of tacos because I moved permanently to a new city in Mexico from another city where I only lived part-time and the tacos here really aren’t as good.)
I usually just move again. But it generally takes longer than 6 months for the shiny to wear off.
I would add that friendship can be trial and error..it may take meeting 100 people before you find a best friend mutually interested in being best friends. If you find someone else interested in making more friends but that you don’t have great chemistry with then perhaps spend time together doing social activities…
It’s easy to underestimate how long it takes to turn an acquaintance into a friend. If there’s someone you’ve met whom you think has friend potential, you’re going to have to do a little work to make that friendship a reality.
Part of the problem is that we always expect a change in external circumstances to have a huge effect on how we think or feel (the grass is always greener and all that). And it never quite works out like that, because wherever you go, there you are.
It can be a royal pain but I suggest moving to different parts of the city, different neighborhoods every couple of years to find the vibe that suits you.
Regarding signing up for groups (that aren’t intramural sports): What experiences/recommendations do people have other than Meet-up? That seems to be the #1 recommendation I get, and I really haven’t found anything there that’s been working for me.
- Try Meetup.com to establish new acquaintances and learn about your new home town.
I’m not sure I agree with “criticism is caring.” In my experience, the criticism wasn’t “I want the best for YOU” it was more, “How do YOU reflect ME in the world?” So the time I tried to go to a party at church with my mother, my wrinkly shirt was about HER not about what I wanted to wear. And that’s not the only…
Well considering my mom’s favorite after school activity with us growing up, was to drink a bottle of wine and figure out which of her kids she was going to make cry, then start beating us because we were crying, and finally ending with one of us being hit (usually with a belt, but sometimes various cooking utensils,…
Criticism is NOT caring when talking about clothing or hair choices - mundane choices that don’t harm anyone. Not even for good mothers. I’m shocked that a therapist would make a statement like that. If your mother deflects and denies when you call her out on her bullshit that is called gaslighting, and it’s a very…
Every Jewish mother knows three things at all times: