Ugh, I wish I had done that. I instead caved and stayed another year, during which I was struggling with some minor PTSD from having to talk someone out of a fucking noose. He would tell me I was just bringing it up to shame him, and that he “Wasn’t really gonna do it”, he just needed attention.…

Oh my god. I cannot stop laughing at this. dying!!!

Gahh noo! I think my bf and I have a few more shows in common than you guys but I am so so sad he doesn’t like awkward/intense/uncomfortable stuff. For instance, he won’t watch The Jinx (even though he likes watching mah true crime shows with me) because when I described it to him he said it sounded “too…

This is good to know. My (white) boyfriend dreams of moving to Nashville one day, but from the few times I visited (in 2011) I (biracial) was really struck by how whitewashed everything felt. Not that I didn’t see any Black folks, but the the only ones I remember seeing were working as cashiers. And every hipster bar…

Right here with ya. I bought a plane ticket for myself (and my boyfriend because he is too poor to afford plane tickets and I really wanted him with me), my dress, am paying for a hotel for 3 nights, shoes, am now realizing I will also need a new bra (all of mine are black and have straps so..that won’t work!) and…

Girl, this has been happening to me so much. Yesterday I (half Black half Hispanic) was told by a Brazilian woman that I should stop playing the race card, if I don’t like the laws I can go back to Liberia. Umm.....?!?!?!?!?!?! Like..I don’t even have words for that. I kept responding back to her (ended up being my…

So, I have chin fat, always have. When I lose weight, I lose some of it, but my chin always makes me look 10 lbs bigger than I am. I have always wondered if it is worth it for my sanity to just get chin lipo or something like that someday, but is it really true that when you get lipo, the fat just comes back somewhere…

when stuff like this is *going on.

Ugh, sorry that person is bothering you. I basically have trouble keeping it together emotionally when stuff like this is gone. I grew up outside of DC and basically chose to tune out because tuning in was too painful. It made me feel hopeless. But at this point I can’t continue that way. In this and other social…

Related question: Does anybody know of any good podcasts that cover issues like this? I’m a podcast junkie but most of what I listen to are comedy and film related shows. I would love to listen to some thoughtful discussions from people of color. I kind of looked around for this during Ferguson but couldn’t find…

Same, but I did have to delete one person yesterday (never met this person IRL, just a friend of a friend) who posted something along the lines of “To all my white friends in Baltimore, stay safe” FGKLDSHGKDLSGLDSFGHJFKDLGBK!GDKGJK45#$%#$TGJK3$#$T

I legit had a breakdown last night. The situation was very upsetting to me already (I’m half black, half puerto rican, grew up in Silver Spring, MD and my parents and brother have since lived in Baltimore for 7 years now, so lots of feels) and then I logged on FB and started reading comments on various articles…

Holy crap. This is a fantastic idea. Maybe my boyfriend will paint MY nails for me! It’s worth asking.

Oh totally. I will totally pass on to my daughter my experience, tell her that it truly doesn’t matter. If she decides she wants to, that’s her choice, but at least she can have a real perspective on it. And if I have a son I will definitely make sure he knows that body hair is a personal thing, a matter of preference…

Same! I just resigned myself to bi-monthly manicures. I tried painting my boyfriend’s nails for fun (at his request) and after one hand he nodded, took the polish from me and flawlessly finished his other hand. And then he told me he understood why I get regular manicures.

Feeling you on the leg stubble. I truly, truly wish I had never started shaving my legs and didn’t like smooth legs. In winter it doesn’t matter because I am wearing pants, and my boyfriend doesn’t care so I only really shave once or twice a week, but in summer I have to shave every god damn day if I plan on wearing…

I hope you aren’t a woman. I really hope that I have to feel taken down by a fellow female on Jezebel because I happen to think the city I live in is windy. I know that making internet comments aren’t that serious but this really hurts my feelings. I feel like you’re just discrediting me for fun. Maybe Chicago is not…

Just because someplace is windier than Chicago does not mean Chicago is not windy. I live in Avondale and while it’s usually nowhere near as windy as the lakefront, this year has been pretty windy. Many, many days this “spring” my deck chairs/ashtray have blown over/away making a huge mess. I have had my hat blow off…

Yup, I mean I totally think about it but also it just feels like an extra twist of the knife. I am trying to imagine how horrifying it would be to receive that text before hearing the news of the crash in an official manner.

I am really not capable of putting on a “normal” face. I try not to catch anyone’s eye during take-off because I know I look terrified and don’t want to freak anyone out. Sometimes it’s so bad I have to double over and just hug myself, which is even worse. I had a flight out of NYC once and this woman was audibly…