My sorority had an annual party at a bar on the beach, and my senior year three of us - myself included - were roofied by the bartender. I honestly think they were just doing it to be dicks, because our insurance required everyone to leave on a bus together, and thank God my date was a good friend of mine and all my…

It’s not, though. That’s the point. It’s a discussion because women have to go to great lengths in order to not be drugged and sometimes we want to vent about it.

Except that sometimes it’s the bartender who puts the drug in your drink.

Happens more than you think. Sometimes the bartenders do it because they got paid by the guy she is out with.

My roommate and her two friends were slipped something by the bartender at the bar they went to recently. The only person who touched their beers was the bartender, and yet they were all disgustingly sick in the morning and couldn’t remember the rest of the night after the first beer. Luckily they were with another…

Why are you so confrontational? Her doing that could open her up for liability.

I wish there were some way to prevent men doing this,

I can’t imagine having a friend drug me, which means I can’t imagine going out with one of my best friend’s and then asking the bartender to watch my drink. First date, I can imagine that, but not with a close friend.

Knew a girl who was at a bar with her boyfriend. Both were roofied by the bartender, and she was raped in the bathroom. Never assume having a man around is going to keep you safe.

I know this is the wrong response but I'm having fantasies of beating the shit out of this guy in public.

Yes! I believe it was a bartender who roofied my friend’s drink.

Bartenders roofie people too.

“Men seem clueless at the routine darkness that women have to deal with in their lives, primarily because we never have to deal with it ourselves.”

I didn’t notice that at first. Sad evidence of the general assumtion that stuff like this only happens to women, even unconsciously.

I liked the inclusion from a woman whose male friend had that experience. I know I have.

I think perhaps the most depressing thing about this is how many comparatively random women present had their own stories. This is part of why I think the number of women who have been sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime is much higher than more conservative estimates like to place that figure. Men seem…

I think most pedophiles are born that way. I don’t think it’s something anyone would choose for themselves. I have heard that some pedophiles were abused themselves and sort of shut down at the age they were abused and stop being attracted to anyone older than that age, but I have no idea if that is true or not.

Thank you for this feedback. I agree with you. Doesn’t most research suggest though that pedophiles can’t be helped? Once a pedophile, always a pedophile?

Honestly, I think the proverbial jury is still out. Some are probably born with bad wiring. Others, the majority in fact, were molested and/or abused themselves as children. So, probably a combination of nature/nurture is my understanding of the current thinking. The important thing is that pedophilia - sexual…

You’re painting with a pretty broad brush there. There are certainly a small subset of entitled, evil people out there, but I do not believe there is a huge push from they pedophile community for decriminalization of child molestation. I’ve read multiple articles from journalists and in the mental health community…