they’re most often not life-threatening, just uncomfortable. and removing them costs money. usually not covered by insurance as it’s considered “cosmetic.”

lol do you think in 35 years she’s never had a doctor look at them?

the one woman’s cysts were on her head. and i am betting it has to do more with the cost of the (non-medically necessary) removal than obesity.

want advice? work on yourself. work on your coping skills and dealing with consequences. we can’t erase whatever shitty things we did, and no one owes anyone an apology.

This isn’t feminism, it’s psychology. so stfu and think about the human element before responding.

My understanding of forgiveness isn’t saying it’s ok, ever, more of a not allowing someone to occupy space in your consciousness. It’s never going to be ok. It wasn’t ok, and we absolutely shouldn’t forget. Forgiveness is about me moving forward and healing. and in some cases it feels fucking impossible, but i’m still…

the masculine crop top is giving me life, along with the high-waisted suspender pants

ok so um, thresher sharks...

i am quoting you exactly. From that same comment:

in my experience, it just ends up hurting me even more.

i think maybe that has to do more with people’s definition of closure. I’m a survivor too. I’ve also learned how important forgiveness (i.e. releasing anger &moving forward) is to my own well-being, and i’d consider my idea of it closure. i held onto a lot for 20 years and it ate me alive. I’ve found closure with some…

how someone heals from abuse or whether or not they choose to forgive is Not👏Your👏Academic👏Discussion👏Topic👏

no. it’s not.

“I’m say DESPITE that. Him having said what he said...is there no path to make amends? That’s my question”

sounds like job for intuitive eating.

YESYESYES. ❤️❤️❤️

the realistic alternative is that no one is responsible for Harmon’s suffering but him. no one forced him to do what he did to her, that was his choice. He will have to live with the fat that he did that for the rest of his life, and yep, therr are consequences. The lesson? don’t act like a lecherous jackhole twat.…

for some people, there isn’t. for others, there is. but in no way is closure “oh you did something really fucked up but it’s ok, we’re good now.”

oh my god y’all are driving me goddamned nuts. SHE JUST FINALLY SPOKE UP ABOUT HER HORRIBLE TREATMENT AND HE FINALLY SAID SORRY AND YOU IDIOTS LIVE IN SOME MAGIC WORLD WHERE OH NOW EVERYTHING CAN BE BETTER IF SHE WANTS IT TO. fuck that, and fuck anyone who thinks that. y’all think “closure” is a moment in ti.e that…

with this kind of emotional abuse (and, frankly, ANY damage, emotional OR physical), the choice to accept any amends is always, ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS up to the injured party. ALWAYS. and if that is never, so fucking be it. The injurer has no rights to shit in that situation. If the injurer wants to make peace with it,…

forgiveness isn’t excusing what was done or even saying “it’s ok now”. what happened will never be ok. it wasn’t ok then, it wouldn’t be ok now, it should never happen again. forgiveness doesn’t require reconciliation or “peace”, it simply means “i’m moving forward and don’t need anything more from you.” there is no…