Maiysha Kai
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Maiysha Kai is Managing Editor of The Glow Up and your average Grammy-nominated goddess next door. Minneapolis born, Chicago bred, New York built. Nuance is her superpower.
12/6/19
9:14 AM
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I think it’s important to recognize that the women who make up the Sister Study organization have sisters with or who have survived breast cancer. That’s the basis of the organization. It should make everyone question the data because those women are more likely to have breast cancer at some point in their life time Read more

12/5/19
11:10 PM
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Yes please. I hate reading stories about this student or that student being kicked out of events because of their hair.

12/5/19
5:27 PM
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But it’s not just an inconvenient “lifestyle change” when, for some Black women, remaining employed is predicated upon them maintaining straight hair.  Read more

12/5/19
5:04 PM
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I’ll hop on and note that PPD and resorcinol are definitely bad for you and are both used in dark dyes. We don’t know that using dark dyes on a regular basis will give you cancer, but we do know that exposure to both of those chemicals can lead to allergic, mutagenic and carcinogenic results.
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12/5/19
4:42 PM
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The ‘permanent’ dyes, predominantly darker colored dyes, typically use p-phenylenediamine (PPD for short) and resorcinol. You should avoid exposing yourself to these dyes as they are known to be toxic and carcinogenic. The issues with dark, or black henna, is that it typically contains PPD, not henna. Real henna is Read more

12/5/19
2:21 PM
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My mom passed in April of this year so there have been and continue to be many firsts without her. The last of my granma’s children, all my closest maternal relatives including my granma have passed. To say I feel lost, lonely and sad a lot of the time would be an understatement. I allow myself to grieve though Read more

12/5/19
1:53 PM
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This was a tough read for me. I lost my father suddenly two years ago. I can still hear the last thing he said to me “ ok bud, I’ll see you tomorrow”. Our relationship was typical father son with contentious moments. But as I got older I started to understand him more. I stopped faulting him for who he wasn’t and Read more

12/5/19
1:13 PM
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I’ve never commented on an article, but this hit me right in the feels. I lost my mother two years ago on Dec. 30th after a long battle with diabetes complications. I’m still mourning her because part of me still hasn’t accepted that she’s gone.  Your journey through your grief in the first year was very similar to my Read more

12/5/19
1:09 PM
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My mother died when I was 19, but I just had my first child 4 weeks ago and oooh, girl. We had a complicated relationship, but this right here?  Read more

12/5/19
12:39 PM
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This hit me hard...I lost my mom to dementia in August...it has been a transformational, raw 2019 for me too. And yes...you’ll be alright, I’ll be alright and hopefully so will everyone else who has experienced or is currently in the midst of this. Here’s to a good-ish 2020!

12/5/19
12:38 PM
5

I'm sorry, I couldn't get all the way through this because I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out. While it's complicated, I'm really close to my mom, and she's really sick. She got diagnosed with Parkinson's a little over a year ago, and all of a sudden started declining really fast. She used to visit a couple times a Read more

12/5/19
12:23 PM
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Thank you. This was a really heartfelt (and well-written) read. Raw, but poetic. Read more

12/5/19
11:25 AM
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Thank you for writing this. The season is often bittersweet, a time when losses sting extra. I lost my mom in 2004 and mourning is hard, hard stuff. Got blindsided by Bisquick at the grocery store once (she made amazing biscuits) and almost had to abandon my full cart to avoid crying in the grocery store. Our Read more

12/5/19
11:02 AM
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Thank you for writing this. Even just reading it there’s so much to reflect on.

12/5/19
10:34 AM
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I couldn’t read this word for word, because I kept tearing up at my desk, so I skipped over those parts. I lost my mom three years ago, to COPD and congestive heart failure. I haven’t mourned her death so much as I’ve mourned the relationship I thought we might someday have. She, like your mom, was a complex person, Read more

12/5/19
8:55 AM
2

Gee you mean am attractive, articulate, well regarded A-List actress is more bankable to NBC than a washed up stand up comedian, that was never funny and a snarky asshole from London with questionable business practices? Who knew? (Eyes Rolling into the back of my head). Hey NBC women have been carrying your network Read more

12/4/19
8:08 PM
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I think she’s a great girl? Really, Jay? That’s pretty condescending. But that was probably the point.

12/4/19
11:50 AM
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I am loud. I remember my best friend in high school telling me to “shut the fuck up” in a restaurant. Then there was the time I was singing, joyously, and loudly and my husband told me to “shut the fuck up”. I have never been approached at work about it because I’m white so it’s considered “cute”. I read an article Read more

12/3/19
4:14 PM
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The fact that Naomi is JUST NOW receiving this award is some bullshit but better late than never I guess!