katydidwhatnow
Katy Kelleher
katydidwhatnow
Jun 29 2015
2

Strange, isn’t it? Just how fragile our little lives really are.

Jun 19 2015
2

My husband had non-hodgkin’s lymphoma, stage 3 in 2009, our son was 16 months old. He had searing pain in his stomach and after a few days he finally had a scan, his body was light up like a cancer Christmas tree. :( He was 35 at the time. The chemo is really rough but if your husband’s chemo is similar to what mine Read more

Jun 16 2015
1

I’ve been on the other side of that. I had Hodgkins Lymphoma, also stage II, also found a big rubbery lymph node around my left collar bone. I was fifteen, so a little bit of a different situation, but the good news is that it was ten years ago now. The people that were there with me during that time have pretty much Read more

Jun 16 2015
3

I could have written this article too (well, maybe not with your eloquence but you know what I mean...) My fiancé has CLL and he is 3 years post chemo, strong as an ox and never accepting the label of “cancer patient”. But last month at the dreaded oncology appointment, his platelets were on the low side. The 3-month Read more

Jun 16 2015
5

Excellently written, and powerfully moving.

I, too, lived this life, and we both survived. We remain friends, having realised about 3 years after he finished chemo that we weren’t meant to be together forever - he wanted kids and i adamantly did not. He now has a child, despite not having frozen any sperm before Read more

Jun 16 2015
5

I tensed up as soon as I read the title of this article. I’m at work and wasn’t sure whether I should click it, and now here I am at my cubicle trying not to tear up. I remember in such vivid detail the day my now-fiance gave me that same call, but what I remember about it the most is how at the time I could never Read more

Jun 16 2015
3

Soooo... my instinct is to suggest something, though unasked. Instead, I will tell you something I did and the reason why. Read more

Jun 16 2015
6

Nice article. Thank you. My wife was diagnosed with a rare type of sarcoma cancer 1 month before our first wedding anniversary. We had 11 months of cancer free wedded bliss, and we’ve been dealing with it ever since (6 years). It’s been tough at times, but also very normal too. She had immediate major surgery Read more

Jun 16 2015
27

The black humor is what saves you. My best friend was diagnosed with multiple myeloma in 2006. We got married in 2007, and he died in 2009. We laughed all the way through it, but the caregiver role isn’t easy. Read more

Jun 16 2015
11

Hi Katy! I’m also another girlfriend then fiancé and then wife to a man who was diagnosed with brain cancer. We were best friends for 13 years before we finally started dating (and all our friends said “finally!” when we did). We dated almost 2 years before he was diagnosed. We married after diagnosis and he died 8 Read more

Jun 16 2015
9

When I saw this headline I almost fell out of my chair. My fiance just fought cancer, we think successfully. Here’s to everyone who is battling, struggling and suffering. I don’t wish it on anyone but thank you for reminding me that no one is alone in it. Read more

Jun 16 2015
28

I’m not sentimental. Really I’m not. But this was a beautiful portrait of you two, and wonderfully written. I’m sorry that you two, or anyone else for that matter, has to go through this. A few years ago, my friend proposed to a girl who was complaining of hip pain. The hip pain was bone cancer and by the time it was Read more

Jun 16 2015
29

I am not the protagonist in this story.” — this really resonated with me. Many stories are written as if a tragedy that befalls a loved one is one’s own tragedy. It isn’t. It’s close, but not the same. Read more

Jun 16 2015
8

I love that you wrote this, so much. I struggled with the narrative too, to keep myself important as well as realizing I was just supporting character to someone I love very much. It was not cancer with him, but organ failure. I think no matter the serious life threatening ailment though I would have felt I needed to Read more

Jun 16 2015
18

I loved this article — I’m sad that he has to face cancer, but I’m glad you’re with him — because everyone deserves that kind of support.
Read more

Jun 16 2015
7

Thanks for writing this. Sometimes it’s hard to manage multiple roles, and being in an immediate relationship with someone who is sick makes the lines even blurrier, because it’s not really about you, but it often feels like it.

Jun 16 2015
23

In case it’s something that you might be interested in, there is a charity that helps with weddings for cancer patients. I had friends who got married through them, Bahar and Nick. I wish the best to you two!!