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I agree if only because we all know this will bring no moment of revelation to her parents. These are the kinds of people who want you to lash out like this so they can feed off of it. By feeding it, you're helping them, not yourself.

I'm just telling you what your words are saying. And by the way, you may want to be a little more careful with your use of hyperbole, because there's a whole lot of unintended irony bundled up in your use of the phrase "shrieking defensiveness".

Wait, you're comparing setting boundaries (albeit nastily) with narcissistic parents to committing a mass shooting? Why am I wondering if YOU have been accused of being a narcissist? Because this is the exact kind of hyperbole and tone policing crap they engage in.

All of this. Hugs and support from another person raised by a narcissist

Yes yes yes...you so hit the nail on the head for me, ''...your voice is stomped out. You are silenced repeatedly...' so true...and then you become the 'bad daughter' the 'troubled one' when you find your voice and USE it... !!!

It is negative for sure, but I just disagree with the idea that we should automatically say the couple "looks bad" for this. It's good to show as much restraint as you can when you deal with awful people- if only because that just works better than getting mad- but I don't like the expectation that it's the mistreated…

You obviously didn't suffer years of 24/7 soul-crushing emotional abuse starting at birth through your most formidable ages, by the 2 people who should be the last ones to ever inflict that upon you. Civility goes out the window when you've been treated like something less than human by your very own parents all your…

Actually, your comments have been pretty shitty and your inadvertently revealing word choice (in which you suggest your chief concern is how things "look" and that this is a "matter of taste") helps make that clear.

Maybe it is too hard for people that never had a narcissitic parent to understand?

As someone whose parents were a narcissistic, abusive alcoholic and his chief enabler/cheerleader, I have to stand up for the bride. Unless you've endured a nightmare childhood at the hands of people who steal your voice, your agency, and your ability to express yourself with any confidence, you cannot begin to…

I was Kinja'd hence the weird double post.

I am glad you were not raised by narcissists because otherwise you would have completely understood where she was coming from.

TBH, everything you've written tells me that you don't have narcissistic parents. I do and everything that woman wrote it justified. Living under the yoke of Nparents for 16 years messes you up and most children of Nparents really struggle in adulthood because of the trauma their parents caused. A "Fuck You" is the…

As someone with narcissist parents who were also not invited to my wedding, thank you for so clearly explaining that. It's hard for people to understand the smothering feeling and complete lack of autonomy that comes with narcissistic parents

I'm latw, but I can do my top five.

This article has been up for HOURS, and we're still the only two people talking about Tori. For shame, Jez readers!

I've been looking for a savior in these dirty streets/looking for a savior beneath these dirty sheets

Two thoughts:

My son feels the same way about the inconsistency between the treatment of male nipples vs female nipples. His solution is to keep his nipples covered at all times.