I agree. Myself and many women I know have been raped by geeks, not Greeks.

That is correct.

I'm glad that you acknowledge that you have no idea about my life and personal circumstances. Perhaps you'll think twice before trying to define someone else's marriage for them in the future.

And since I can't edit: I didn't enter the committment despite resevations. My health issues were much less serious than initially supposed, and so we waited another 6 months until we were both ready to commit to the marriage fully before entering that emotional and legal partnership. I'm not sure why you're telling…

Before I was married, my parents could have pulled the plug, and were in my will as my beneficiaries. That doesn't mean I was "married" to my mom and dad. My marriage is more than just a legal document. And I don't think my friends who are married for insurance reasons, despite being overall opposed to marriage as an…

Yes, I'm playing coy because I tried to maintain health insurance that I couldn't otherwise afford during a crisis before I was prepared to fully enter into the personal commitment I believe marriage to be. I'm so glad you called me out for the fraud I am.

Ooof, that one goes down to the roots. I wish I had something helpful to say.

I think it depends. I had some serious health issues before getting for real married, and we weren't at the point of wanting to be married yet, and considered being secret married for insurance stuff. But for us it would have been "in name only" for a while and we would have had our eventual for-real wedding later. I…

I'm not really sure why this was important to point out. At most jobs (mine included), mentorship is expected off the clock. My only point was that if being inclusive and inclusivity-related activities can count as work, then there is motivation to do those activities, and that's cool.

Yeah, I gotcha. I have my own gripes with the HR memo, which mostly stem from a kind-of ludicrous bad-girl complex with authority. Even if I do have some gripes, I'm glad to see employees being encouraged to actually talk to people like me. And really, the content of the memo isn't so different from blog posts that…

I kind of agree with you. There are well-documented mentorship and inclusion gaps for people who basically aren't white males. And speaking from personal experience, if co-workers perceive you to be a "diversity hire", there can be interpersonal retaliation or exclusion. I'm not sure I love the way this is written,…

Bingo. If a person knows someone is harrassing people, and they keep on keepin' on with them, that person is condoning harrassment. Period. Too many women get pushed into continued interactions because their friends don't care about them enough to drop the harrassers. And that's bullshit. A person can't call someone a…

I got the Diva cup. I'm a heavy bleeder the first two days of my period and the only time I ever had any trouble was when I didn't empty it for like, 18 hours, on the second day of my period. Which was dumb, since that's my heaviest day. I used to have major overnight issues, even with the heavy flow tampons, but…

You're the one who can't comprehend simple things. I never said you blamed victims. I said you want to shame and attack rape victims until they choose not to report out of fear. I said that you're trying to create a world in which rapists can rape with impunity because their victims are so afraid of backlash (public…

I've been in the victim's shoes, and heard this rhetoric. "If you were telling the truth, you'd go to the cops! You'd save other women from me!"

Oh, I read everything. I'm just saving everyone else the time. You posted a series of comments designed to shame women out of reporting rape. I don't find the musings of rape apologists interesting or amusing, so I tl;dr'ed it for other anti-rape people and fellow rape victims.

tl;dr. Not interested in your rape apologia apologia.

Your whole modus is to discredit and attack rape victims, and to open them up to more scrutiny than they're already under. You do this because you know that rape victims are hurt, ashamed and afraid and you want to increase that shame and fear. You do this because you want them to shut up and stop making a stink about…

I think it's more sinister. Assholes like this rely on a culture that will needle and question every choice a rape victim makes. If she chose wrong at some point? Deserved what she got. People like Rhayne are always looking to find new and exciting ways to critique rape victims in the hope of discouraging them from…

I'm inclined to wonder what your devotion to coddling rapists and attacking victims is.