“...but it’s very possible for a person to be capable of both good and bad.”

Yeah...there are stories of him doing wonderful acts of charity, like showing up unannounced in full Jack Sparrow regalia at children’s hospitals and schools. I don’t want this to be true, but it’s very possible for a person to be capable of both good and bad.

You know, I don’t usually wade into this shit, but here I am.

I honestly didn’t know where you were going or what point you were trying to make. No shade, just a little confusion.

Yes, the incidents of women getting murdered because they refused to date or broke up with a guy are (thankfully) relatively rare, but they’re still far too common. They’re also on the extreme end of a spectrum of male violence/aggression toward women. Nearly every woman I know (including me) could you tell stories…

“This is a one in a many millions crime, like terrorism.”

You seem fixated on this officer and this particular act- sure, it is spectacularly heinous but that does not make all of the other women who are killed in more mundane ways by rejected men any less dead.

I don't even know what I can say at this point. I'm lost.

911 helps you deal with the guy in front of you with a weapon.

But 911 doesn’t help you deal with where you’re going to live tomorrow when you leave or how you’ll be able to not get charged with kidnapping while protecting any minor children, or finding the strength to leave when you’re so broken down from the…

That’s unbelievably foolish. The quote in no way makes women’s fears more valid than men’s. It makes them more URGENT. It speaks to a demonstrably true fact that women are murdered by men at a higher rate than the inverse; that IS a valid fear, and IN THIS PARTICULAR CASE AND CONTEXT, it’s a more PRESSING concern than…

The fear of being laughed at pales in every respect to the fear of being murdered.

It’s also not our job to get men on board. It’s men’s job to get men on board.

You initially said your problem with the quote was about generalizations. You’re moving the goalposts.

If it’s an immediately dangerous situation, the call-takers will tell you to hang up and call 911. The hotline primarily exists to provide support and information to victims and their families/friends. They help with safety planning and finding local resources, and they just listen to people talk about their…

Do you legitimately not understand the comparison being made in the quote? That:

Kindly don’t tell women to not be occasionally be afraid of men when the vast majority of women on this site alone could give you a story confirming why they're right to occasionally be afraid of men.

You seem to be deliberately misunderstanding the quote. Fear and wariness don’t equate to avoiding; they’re simply what we are often thinking of. It speaks more to the culture and pattern of male violence. It’s in the back of our heads, because of things like this. That’s what the quote is about. The fact that you’re…

and for good measure:

Why is it that the expectation is always for the oppressed victims to effect change, instead of those who perpetrate it?

The original Italian article mentions that she left him because he hit her (well, they call it “a violent incident that disturbed her, though she chose not to denounce him, possibly because she was concerned that it would cost him his job”).