The Arby’s on Oahu are also in locations that aren’t worth writing home about. They don’t have one that’s seaside in Waikiki, which is what some people may imagine.
They have one near Pearl Harbor, and the others are in a big mall and a strip mall on the west side of the island — places that don’t look like Hawaii.

You beat me to it :-) I’m here in SoCal and thought the exact same thing. 

This is great news! I went to school in Seattle and lived there for a while after graduation, but moved away a long time ago (in the mid-aughts). I go back regularly to visit, and the city has changed SO much. I don’t recognize several neighborhoods now, especially areas like South Lake Union — it has been gentrified…

May I ask why you gave a 30 days notice? That’s a long time to stay at what sounds like a toxic workplace. Two weeks is more than considerate.

I love this!!!

Fuck. This can, and will, go on for years. I bet he’ll ramp things up once the baby comes into the picture.

I’m super familiar with narcissistic abuse. I dated a man who is one a long time ago, and to this day he STILL makes attempts to reach out to me once in a blue moon (and I left him years ago). He can’t call me because he has been blocked, but he has texted people we mutually know, even googled me and emailed me at my…

I suspect Thomas Markle is a narcissist and I agree. Since he clearly doesn’t respect anyone’s boundaries (a textbook characteristic of a narcissist) I’m sure they knew he was going to sell or publish the letter. They managed to stay one step up ahead of him, and expose him for what he really is.

Oh I feel your pain. I’m in small city that has more of the mentality of a very small town. The men I encountered on the app who were raised here and haven’t lived anywhere else were way worse than the transients and any of the tourists, which made me sad. They were totally guilty of the things you speak of — looking…

I lived in the PNW for a long time, and I agree that Portland is a great city! Amazon has changed Seattle sooooo much, but Portland really seems to be doing it’s own thing and the change doesn’t seem as drastic there. It might warrant a visit again when the weather gets better. Maybe you’ll find a guy to bring back!…

This is so succinct and perfect. I swear, we need a list of city-by-city online dating tropes. I know there’s been stories/sites about universal ones, like Humanists of Tinder and the dead fish thing, but I’d love to see something more localized :-)

I remember your posts, too! Have you noticed that the out-of-towners that you like are from a certain city/part of the country? Like are they clustered somewhere? If so, and if you really are considering moving anyway, maybe it might be worth a quick weekend trip elsewhere to see how the place vibes with you? Or if…

Did you grow up in a planned community/suburb where there wasn’t much to do? I did as well, and the Walmart in my hometown is open 24 Hours. Growing up, the parking lot was always packed with teenagers just hanging out, smoking and listening to music.

I’m in the tropics, too. I see you, fellow humid-weather dweller! :-)

Doesn’t it seem that way on almost every level? On top of everything else, the labor laws weren’t in our favor (during my time). I also recall not getting health insurance, not being able to call in sick (when I was legit sick) unless I found someone to cover my shift, and one place I worked at had something called a…

This really fascinates me. I had only visited the Bay Area a few times when I lived in SoCal, but I was always curious what dating there was like in comparison. Too many tech guys? And congratulations on finding your manly-man! :-)

Men posting photos of dead animals — whatever animal is trophy hunted where they live —on their dating profiles really sounds like a national problem that needs to go away.

Hey Jezzies! Over a month ago I had posted here seeking advice about navigating Bumble/Tinder and sharing the issues I was encountering — men who matched with me and the conversation going no where, men who I’d click with after conversing on the app but they’d unmatch me when I was not available to meet immediately tha…

Pumpkin Andy I am so sorry you went through this! But this is great news that you know what the condition is, that’s treatable and the damage is not permanent. Thank you for sharing this with us, and I hope you fully recover soon! 

Yeah I recall she’s said in interviews that she grew up in a liberal household that wasn’t religious. I think one of her parents is/was a professor at UW, where she also went to school.