Just gonna leave this here.

I’m sorry you have gone through all of that awfulness! I almost died twice and had to take three years off for a difficult pregnancy and then just getting my head around being a new mom... which I think I already said, but I’m saying it again because trust me, it will be there when you’re ready to go back, and you…

I spent a good chunk of today crying because I’m so stressed out. I met friends for lunch and my sandwich was inedible and the service was terrible and I didn’t have the bandwidth to ask for a refund when the person behind the counter took the sandwich I brought back and said “what do you want me to do about it?” So,…

43 isn’t too late. The way I see it, you can be 50 with a PhD or 50 without a PhD. It’s up to you! But only do it if you really, really want it and have a research area you are itching to dive deep into. Because it’s really hard.

My posts are showing up (I’ve also been out of the grays for quite some time), but I haven’t been able to log in on mobile at all for a couple months now.

Glad to know I’m not alone!

I took three years off when I got pregnant and nearly died! You’ve got this. And also I hope things are okay. 

Congrats! It takes a lot to even get this far, and also you’re very close to a whole new adventure! How wonderful. I took about three years off when I got pregnant - really difficult, dangerous pregnancy that left me with no energy to speak, much less study or write, and then just basically recovering from that. But I…

Don’t do it!

If I say that and you can’t imagine your life without it, and feel really compelled to research something in particular, to the point that you’ll give up many hours of family time over it for several years, then go for it.

Oh my god, that dog! My dog doesn’t really react to video unless there’s a dog barking and then she’s like WHO IS THAT I MUST DEFEND THE CASTLE FROM ALL INTRUDERS!

On another note, I post about my dissertation progress sometimes, so here’s the latest.

I’m doing last revisions to my dissertation this weekend so I can…

I’m sorry all that happened to you. I’ve had every one of these experiences as a cisgender woman, and know how creepy and scary and dehumanizing it is from that side of things, though obviously not from the perspective of a trans person with that additional layer of relative gender privilege removed. The world has a…

Along with a couple of children. It’s an abomination, what they’re doing to these people. They’re not treating them like human beings.

Because she had a legitimate claim for asylum, and the Trump administration is rejecting legitimate claims for asylum left and right, including hers, in contravention of both our own laws and international law. We can both condemn what is happening in El Salvador and the current administration’s abominable treatment…

There are certainly places that are more safe or less safe for trans people here in the US, though they will face potential harassment everywhere because people are jerks. But one of my best friends is trans and she’s said many times how glad she is to live in our city, where trans people are celebrated and accepted…

So basically the outcome this administration was hoping for.

It’s so infuriating and heartbreaking. She should have been given safety here in the US. I’m sorry we failed her, and so many others.

After reading WaPo’s write-up of Dr. Tyson’s account of what happened (which was apparently leaked to a right wing blog by a Facebook friend and not by her), along with her statement, it is difficult not to believe her completely. Many of us know men like this, or have had similar encounters with men like this, and…

This is why it’s important to have a wide variety of people doing the public vetting process, really. And it bugs me when people think vetting means supporting! Vetting means taking somebody seriously and looking at all the pros and cons seriously. I think it’s something we should all do when choosing candidates or…

If you read the NYTimes piece this is why:

“We could name and shame them, but it could be more successful to try and take a more constructive avenue here,” Mr. Kara said. “These women and girls may only earn pennies but they are crucial ones. If the brands simply pulled out and they lost their home work, it could be…

That’s not what I’m doing, at all. I am talking about what’s happening in my small corner of the social media landscape. And there’s a meaningful difference between people who make well-grounded critiques, and people who just spew bile about somebody. That is, in fact, my point. The people making well-grounded…