I loved your blog! Reading this article is like someone wrote about my life. I’m not bougie; I have very specific tastes.
Please please write a memoir. Your observations on intergenerational tensions between family members who grew up with a certain standard of living and those who rose from poverty to that level are important. Your insight into your mom’s pre-rejection of people based on outward markers that she actually shared, and her…
Since this seems to be the North County escapee’s club meeting place, hello from a Bellefontaine Neighbors born escapee.
*tips glass of fancy cocktail in respect and recognition to other bougie person from across the speakeasy-style bar that you need a secret password to get into behind the barbershop*
Damn, I guess the Hawks really are in the House, huh? Hazelwood Central grad, class of ‘90 here....and current teacher in the Ferguson-Florissant school district.
Thank you for this article! I guess most people think I’m bougie or Republican or whatever because I’m also not down with anti-intellectualism and the social structures of the south that many Black people use to define their “Blackness”. It’s also why I never go home. So many people use that stuff as an excuse to stay…
Oh man, I wonder if it’s the St Louis in you. UCity raised here, went to Clayton. Hated everyone and everything, and turned into a version of it. My parents relocated to CWE, but I still hit the Loop, which was what I held over Clayton snobs(again, I turned into my own version of it).
Great piece, Danielle. Other than my parents being lower middle-class, this is me, right down to growing up in St. Louis. (Oddly enough, the family that once called me “bougie” now asks my opinion about watches, cars, and computers. Huh.)
Bravo! As I have always said as a libra and being constantly labeled bougie or spoiled. I am well -adjusted and will whoop yo ass in some spades.
Applebee’s is bland food, even for what it is. You’d do better at a TGI Friday’s or Chili’s. At least they do casual dining well.
Embrace the bougieness. Southern Blacks have bougieness in our blood. Go to New Orleans during ball season to see some real snobby shit.
I am bougie. None of my family understands me at all. That’s okay. I wanted more than the life they were offering me. And I have it. And my child shall have it as best as I can give it to her. There is nothing wrong with wanting nice stuff and better opportunities.
Going deep on the symbolism in a twerk video with The Black Snob?
Your lashes look amazing! I’m having sympathy pangs over the $$, though. When the extensions are gone, you might try DIY lash growth boosters like castor oil or (bear with me, it sounds crazy)... Monistat-7 (has to be the brand, and the 7-day type).
Those look so beautiful on your eyes! I was thinking about trying this, but your review helped me out. I have super sensitive eyes and most mascara makes my eyes burn. I imagine if these made you want to rub your eyes they would probably be a nightmare for me. Thank you!
I get mine done every 2-3 weeks. Mostly because my own lashes are boring but it’s an expense I can afford. I went to one lashtician who used Xtream Lash products. That was about $300 for a full set and the shits would almost immediately fall out. For some time I stopped because the more clients she got, the more her…
I have body dysmorphic disorder that started up right after I survived a traumatic assault. I went into a dark place where I wanted to get a bunch of cosmetic surgery, but was able to snap out of it luckily. One of the things that really helped was getting eyelash extensions. It lifted my entire face and put smiles on…
I struggle with depression, sometimes on a daily basis (and my dog recently died, so it’s especially difficult these days) and I want to let you know that I applaud your honesty in writing about something not everyone wants to understand. I have a very good friend who has become bipolar but can’t take medication and I…
Really beautifully written. Thank you for your honesty.