Um, I said "largely," not "entirely" ignoring a tantrum caused by not getting her choice at a sippy cup color. Jesus. I was agreeing with you that kids' feelings should be validated. I'd hate to see your reaction to people who disagree with you...

That's a depressing thought. :-/

The author in the original article makes it pretty clear that the problem is simply that the child is making a request that will result in more work — there is nothing to suggest that the child is in a soiled diaper and brattily demanding her way. Again, 9 times out of 10 there is probably a good reason to say no. I…

I taught kindergarten about 10 years ago for four years. My theory was that we had to say "no" to the kids all the time for practical reasons — parents don't. So, the kids look like they're behaving better for us. The entire point of pre-k through Kindergarten is to make sure kids are behaviorally ready to enter…

:: rolls eyes :: Okay, I grant you the moral high ground for making the exact same fucking point in a more hand-wringing way, and for saying the exact same fucking thing in a way designed to point out my imperfect grammar. FFS

I'm not sure why the assumption is that the kid isn't asking in a nice way — I thought the fear was of a post-denial tantrum. I'm not endorsing tantrums or making a decision on the fear of a tantrum — if one happens, sure, shrug and move on. Are you suggesting assuming the kid is going to have a tantrum and making a…

A challenge that I've mercifully overcome. As a woman who was raised by my grandparents to be a nice girl, I'm just always amused by the idea that my peers are at some disadvantage because they weren't raised with the same strictness. Demanding things and not getting them is better than not making the demands in the…

You've never accommodated a partner's slightly ridiculous request simply because you were able to and you were feeling generous? (Btw, not sure why you're assuming the kid isn't asking politely). I was raised by my grandparents on the "children must be seen and not heard" principle, and really delight in the nice…

OTOH, I was raised on the principle of "children must be seen and not heard." It's been a challenge to learn to be assertive at work. I'm not sure the arbitrarily authoritarian parent is doing the favor to their kids you think they are.

Right, but some parents think arbitrarily saying "no" all the time makes them better parents, and they wear it as a badge of pride. Those are the idiots passing this around on my fb. But I agree that capitulating out of fear of a tantrum rather than simply because you don't mind complying with the request is…

I think you've hit the issue spot on. It's okay to tell your kid no about the sippy cup, and weather the ensuing tantrum by largely ignoring it. But unlike adults — where you shouldn't have to explain that shit — kids aren't going to know why you won't give them another sippy cup. Particularly if the decision seems…

So...we obviously don't disagree.

I wish you the best on your venture to find the part of the internet that is suitably sexist and conservative.

Here's my story from The Day I Decided We Would Never Have Comcast Again: Our notice that the auto-payments weren't going through was when the internet stopped working. I called, and while the first rep I spoke with was unable to determine if the error was on Comcast's side, or a rejection from the bank ("some banks…

I worked at a university fund and just prayed that people would politely say "no thank you" to my three asks instead of go off about how the University failed them.

I'm sure Sheriff Bill Bivens would be all about enhancing penalties for male addicts who dare procreate when they can't provide for a child. Because: "Anytime someone is addicted and they can't get off for their own child, their own flesh and blood, it's sad."

The law, duh. Because drug addicts are notorious for making good decisions solely based on the legality of something.

Just Adderall, apparently! But if "right to" means "not being fucking arrested," then yes. For all the good reasons people mentioned, which do not include because drugz are fun.

Don't do drugs kids, or you'll be forced to post to the internet in ALL CAPS LIKE A SPEED FREAK.

Desoxyn is methamphetamine in pill form to treat ADHD. "Amphetamine" as ratchison pointed out isn't the same as the modified amphetamine salts used to treat ADHD.