I don’t know. For the life of me, I don’t understand it. But it always reminds me of a book by one of the writers of Sex in the City who talks about how guys will take crazy strides to avoid breaking up with women. Like the storyline where Burger breaks up with Carrie with a post-it note? That really happened to one…

I’m just finishing Theft by Finding, David Sedaris’ book of diary compilations and I want to read I’ll Be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara, but I also know very well what my imagination is capable of so I’m nervous.

Ahhh you guyyyyyyys after a whole bunch of non-starter dates and being ghosted by a guy who seemed cool and then turned out to be a cowardly fuckboy, something may have stuck.  I had my third date with a guy last night and it was great. He is great. I’m trying not to get TOO excited because people can surprise you in…

This comment is so wonderful. And true. Online dating is like being on The Bachelor except you don’t know how many other women are left in the house or what their relationships are like or who they are. It’s insanity. But thank you for your wise words. I’m glad your friend has you to go through the wild world of…

I have to plan every aspect of my life because my schedule is so erratic, but his job is nothing but planning so I get it.

I just figured the first few would be bad. I don’t have the dedication of your friend, but it definitely takes a willingness to try, try again.

I haven’t even bothered with Tinder. I don’t think I have the stomach for it.

Totally makes sense! He has said before that he doesn’t like planning. If it was any other person, I wouldn’t blink an eye at not hearing from them in three days. But he was texting me so much the first week we started chatting that I had to turn the text alert on my fitbit off. So it felt a bit weird for that to…

A Portland Aquarian with a crazy job and partial custody! Also I’m in Portland but he lives way out in the middle of nowhere which helps NOT AT ALL.

I haven’t read it yet, but a friend recommended the book ‘Attached’ because it talks about all of the different relationship types and helps put into perspective different types of behaviors. Like, just because I tell people when I’m busy and give them a heads up if they won’t hear from me, doesn’t mean that everyone…

It’s laughably bad.

That’s good to know, all I have to do is ask. But seriously? Don’t tell me what is or isn’t significant. Your experience is not my experience, and having been in a relationship where there was no sexual activity for over two years feels extremely significant to me.

Yeah, absolutely. That has definitely occurred to me. But then I think that it must suck trying to juggle a crazy work schedule, an irregular custody situation and dating. And if there was a connection that it would be worth being patient for? I dunno.

So a couple months ago I did the thing and broke up with the guy who wasn’t right for me and of the huge range of emotions I experienced, the most acute was the crippling realization that I have to date again. I do. Because I need to have sex. I haven’t had sex in over TWO YEARS you guys.

So far Julianne is winning for “Most Snarky in a Supporting Role”.

The state of aftercare when it comes to mothers, particularly when it comes to women of color, can be abysmal. There was an article a couple of months ago about a woman an acquaintance of mine knew and it’s just so sad. I am so happy that Serena was able to advocate for herself and keep herself safe, because even…

It’s terrifying how often the ball is dropped when it comes to aftercare. I know someone who was in their postpartum room after the birth of their baby, and while there, was given conflicting information in regards to her baby’s health by the different nurses. While this person’s life wasn’t in danger the way in can…

Not crazy at all! I think my first dates are going to look like: Do you get enthusiastic about Christmas/holidays? Do you enjoy dancing at weddings? Are you open to potentially having lots of cats and dogs and tiny fat babies? These are things I need.

It is SO much fun and loveliness and joy and seeing a baby be born is fucking insane and amazing every single time. But it’s also being on call, waking up in the middle of the night when your client calls, not knowing if the medical team at the hospital is going to be receptive to your presence (in this regard I am…

Thank you!! I’m really proud of myself. It was fucking hard and it’s going to be a bumpy road (I am going to need to start taking vitamin B to repair my nerves) especially as most of our friends have no idea that anything is wrong, not to mention his family. Or his mom! Oh Jesus, his mom. She’s going to be a handful.…