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Judging by my mum’s experience and the things she’s said to me? I think that being aware of what you’re able to do/capable of doing, and making sure your husband is also aware, can go a long way. My parents never discussed the possibility of him aging the way he has, of what he’d need, even with his 50+ years of…

It is what it is, indeed. I needed very badly to vent today. I’m bitter as fuck, and have always just been hyper aware of these disparities between me and my siblings/cousins/friends. I’m angriest right now about what my mum has been dealing with as dad’s aged (badly). Your friend had a rough go, and that sucks a…

You know, there’s someone else who’s replied who loved having an older dad. And as it becomes more common, I think it will be less of an issue. But for me—with my siblings, my cousins, my peers—growing up in the 80s and 90s, I was the odd duck out. I was the one with the “old” parents. And I’m admittedly jealous of…

I don’t know what kind of advice I can truly offer you, but one thing I can and will say? Discuss it and plan and prepare. You could stay healthy; you could be so lucky and be hale and hearty until the end. They never talked about any of it, and Dad aged... badly. He did not age gracefully. Dad just expected Mum to…

Lots of hugs back. I’m sorry that you lost your dad when you were so, so young, and for what you’re going through right now with your mother. It’s really not easy.

It’s not always about quantity, my dude, but also quality. My clearest memories of my dad are him at 50+; my siblings are 47 and 50. They got his good years. From my own perspective, because of the way he has aged, he has almost always been an old man. And now he’s dying. My cousins and friends are all 3 to 10 years…

*hugs* It sucks. It sucks so much, I know—you’ve basically described my dad. He’s just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, and he has spent literal years now ignoring his health, just focusing on whether or not his blood pressure was okay (which, hey, it was; his heart is actually doing great, all things…

The resentment can be really intense, for all sorts of parties involved. I feel for your sister, and can’t imagine trying to raise a teenager at 65+.

That’s really quite extraordinary. I’m so sorry. I’m looking at my siblings (47 and 49 vs my 36), with a lot of anger for how much more time they’ll have had with him than I ever will now.

There are lots of seniors who, by grace of good genes or magic, are hale and hearty and spry until the very end. Aging is inevitable; but not everyone ages the same way. It can be the little things: not smoking, staying active even if it’s only a little, wearing sunglasses to stave off cataracts, etc.

Thank you for sharing your sorry. I’m sorry you lost your dad so young, younger than I am now, facing down the loss of my own dad.

I’ll admit I was speaking from a very emotional place today. My dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer after ignoring his health for... a long while. Not every 79-year-old is going to be the same, health-wise, deterioration-wise.

Please imagine that there’s just an endless string of applause .gifs here.

I’m excited for Fire and Blood from the greys, too!

I wish I had any sort of good advice for you from 11 more years’ experience, but I just don’t. I’m so sorry. My mum had me at 33, but dad was 43. I was keenly aware of my parents being “old” when I was a kid, but I was probably around your age when it all really hit me. My dad was getting seniors’ discounts, and I…

I, uh, well. If wildly guessing in a rude way, I’d say three options? A surprise!, a family “scandal” (raising a child’s child as your own because...?), or a second/third/etc marriage...???

I’m so sorry, for the loss of your dad and your mum’s failing health.

I’m so sorry. :(  *sends gentle hugs across the interwebs*

There’s a 10 year age gap between my parents and... ever since Dad turned about 60 it’s just gotten harder and harder on Mum. Watching him age. Watching his decline. Watching everything. She has told me to never, ever be in a serious relationship with anyone more than just a handful of years older than me. It didn’t…