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What do you think is the best

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piece of dating advice
you've ever heard and also the worst?

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Well, I guess that I've ever heard, and I
kind of references in the book from my

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my grandma Phyllis, which was just, you
know, this is not the end of the world.

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It just really isn't.

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And so much about dating relationship
feels like the end of the world

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if you can remind yourself that it's not.

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I think that will keep you,

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keep you going and keep you fighting
for what you deserve.

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And also remember

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that you're only looking for one
and that forever is a really long time.

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So try not to get impatient.

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I'm a very impatient person,
I think, especially when it comes to love.

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We can get very impatient.

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But again, if you're looking
for a life partner, which most of us are,

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forever's a long time.

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So make sure you get it right.

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Have some perspective. Yeah, right.

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And then do you have maybe from Thoreau

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back in the day, what are some awful
dating advice you've heard?

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Generally, like, probably like,
you know, if, you know,

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tried to try to get someone's attention
treated poorly, things like that.

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Right.
You know, that kind of nagging. Nagging?

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Yeah. The poking of the bear.

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I mean, again, that's a great way to maybe
get someone's attention.

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It's a great way
to feel to invalidate someone

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so that they you're going
to trigger their ego. Right.

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And you might get some short
term gratification out of that.

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Right.

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But that's that's not going to make
you happy over the long run.

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And that's going to get you in trouble.

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And it's going to get you into kind of,
you know, a toxic situation.

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So if you want to simply
just get someone's validation,

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fine, you can do that.

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But it's not going to get you
if you're actually looking for

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some sort of healthy romantic
relationship, that's not the way to do it.