*This will not be limited to only black parents or the community. I’m black, my family is black, so these are my experiences. However, any person of color is free and welcome to join in. Discussion is encouraged.

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I’ve been very open about my relationship with my mom, who I will now refer to as Tanya because she no longer has the privilege of being in my life and hasn’t been a mother to me in a very long time. I have also been very open that I needed and got into therapy and encourage anyone that has the means to do it (and if…

I’ve had an intense last week of training. My new job has, like, 2000 wines and I have to know a majority of them. What we carry in liquor is also extensive but I’m not complaining as management and my trainer require me to try all the food and alcohol :)

I got my first solo shift tomorrow and then I’ll only be working…

The first annual TED Talk Women’s Conference was here in the desert last week and I got contracted to work it and it was AMAZING. Most of the staff was from the main office in Canada and were stereotypical in the politiness, although I’m not complaining. This was the first event I worked where every aspect of it was…

Thanks to all for the words of encouragement and kindness from my last post. I have read them all, sorry for not responding, I dipped out after the update because I cranked up the job search in the last two weeks and have come up for air.

Alright. Biopsies aren’t that bad but waiting for the fucking results will certainly take years off your life. I was supposed to get the results last Wednesday, then it would be another day or two, then Monday for sure, then yesterday happens and my doctor is in surgery all day so it will be today. I’m afraid I lost…

Within a few days after I told all y’all that I was doing significantly better, more shit went down. It starting to get into the “possibly serious” territory so here’s another update:

The last thing I wrote was on imaginaryfriend’s post about books and like, literally the next day, I woke up with a giant-ass swollen…

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My health issues are kind of escalating so I’m going in for more testing this week and will be MIA for a bit. I apologize because I told y’all I’d be around more after graduation and I hate that I’m not. I am really sorry because I did have some things (community posts) planned for TSB but I gotta go figure out wtf is…

Let me tell y’all, I still can’t get over how differently I’m treated because of this. Everyone is just so pleasant and patient and willing to work with me! I really didn’t believe it could be like this. Not only that, but my ethnicity didn’t work against me concerning the doctor and actually might have helped things.…

For the time being, my work/school load is stabilizing and my health has improved so I’ll be around more as I am forever job searching. Besides school, work and The Salad Bowl, I have not really paid attention to anything outside of cats, politics and food so I feel like I’m really behind on wtf is happening around…

All last week I had some insane vertigo. It was so bad that I couldn’t even look at a computer or phone screen and lights were making me nauseous. At first I thought I had some low-key food poisoning (and I think I did. My boyfriend switched brands on our ready-to-eat bacon and ordered a brand that was not precooked.…

I just finished this book for school and fell in love with the author and her writing. Naylor’s story talks about black people assimilating and how they start to lose a piece of their blackness (and themselves) for the sake of appearances and acceptance in a white world.
The New York Times wrote a review when it was…

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Great piece by John Pavlovitz.

I apologize for being extra scarce but it’s been a very busy month. I’m headed to LA for grad school for a couple of weeks and then I graduate! After that, I start my field study (hopefully) with a black woman’s magazine and will have a much smoother schedule.

Love you all! Hope everyone is doing great!

I met up with a friend and former coworker and his boyfriend last weekend to hang out. They live in Hillcrest, which is essentially the heart of the LGBTQ community in San Diego, and I lived there for about six months before moving to the desert.
Anyhow, my friend’s boyfriend’s job offered to relocate him to Arizona…