I'm so sorry he did that to you.

Of course I know that men can be sexually harassed. However, that's not what this particular post is about. Having been sexually harassed also doesn't give you the right to tell this woman that she brought the harassment on herself by choosing to date Caucasian men.

That's pretty much what the original post says.

Indeed. Not dating white men will surely prevent you from ever being sexually harassed by one. That's usually how it works.

I never said they were. I think you're confusing me with a different commenter.

I'm a white woman with an Asian-American husband, and I agree that it's annoying when people assume that your love for someone is based on a fetish. However, that doesn't mean that Asian fetishists don't exist, or that it's wrong for Asian women to complain about them.

It's not white women in particular who see Asian-American men as "lesser." American culture in general devalues and stereotypes Asian men as less masculine, unless they're ninjas or kung-fu masters. As a white woman married to an Asian-American man, I can tell you that nearly all of the disparaging comments I've heard…

I certainly agree that it's wrong to use an accusation of homosexuality as an insult, but I don't think it's wrong to mock hypocrisy, or to laugh at people who actually are what they hate. I'm Jewish and I don't condone using "Jew" as an insult, but I still laughed when that anti-Semitic Hungarian politician found out…

I don't think anyone is questioning HER sexuality - no one thinks that she must be gay just because she's stupid and obnoxious. It's her husband - of gay-conversion-therapy fame - that people wonder about. Also, with straight-identified men, there is some evidence that "hating gay people" correlates with a greater…

Fair point, but Marcus Bachman used to perform gay "conversion therapy," and personally I tend to wonder about the sexual orientation of ostensibly straight men who are that fixated on homosexuality. Also, he seems to set off a lot of gay men's gaydar. Whether that's because he seems effeminate or for some other…

I'm pretty okay with mocking virulent homophobes for being secretly closeted. We're not mocking their sexual orientation - we're mocking their hypocrisy and cowardice.

Unfortunately, yes: http://gawker.com/mere-blackface…

Sure. I would just be careful to make sure people can actually tell you're supposed to be mustard and not just a douche.

Oh, you mean like that kid who dressed up as Dead Trayvon Martin? Yeah, I'm SURE he had nothing but good intentions.

Sure, as long as the paint is green or purple or some other color that doesn't evoke the long, gross history of blackface in the US.

WON'T SOMEONE THINK OF THE RACISTS

I think you have a point about magazines that deliberately undermine women's confidence in order to sell clothes. I've always hated the magazine articles that tell you "Buy this type of clothing if you are pear-shaped/flat-chested/overweight/etc." without any acknowledgment that many women choose clothes that…

Seriously, you're going to come onto a feminist website, tell a female commenter that "maybe it's all in your head," and NOT expect a negative reaction?

If you're trying to be a nice guy, and you just wind up pissing people off, maybe you should adjust your behavior instead of whining about how mean we all are. Again, Paco did that - why don't you?

I said that his comment was patronizing because he responded to an article about a general social problem with "Hopefully you ladies can take comfort in the fact that there are men like myself..." etc. That is patronizing. It is patronizing to assume that a group of people will suddenly feel better about a negative…