That's not what this article is about. It's not about how we're all sad and despairing because no one sees our inner beauty except some rando on the Internet. It's not even about attraction - as the OP acknowledges, physical appearance is always going to be a major component of desire.

I am, personally, not even remotely a fan of slapstick comedy. That said, it takes a truly special human being to compare mocking a rape victim to mocking someone who has slipped on a banana peel. You're making a straw-man argument - I said it's wrong to mock victims, and cited victims of rape, racism, and the…

I am not oversimplifying. The fact that it is always crappy to make fun of victims for being victims does not mean you can't mock them for something else. If a Nazi gets raped, it is still okay to make fun of him for being a Nazi. It is not okay to make fun of him for being a rape victim.

Humor is a weapon. If you use that weapon against rapists - or against anyone who abuses their power - that's great. If you use it against the victims? You suck at life.

I used to know someone like that, also in high school. She told us that she was a Hawaiian princess by birth and that she had a team of ninjas living in her basement. She was very entertaining to talk to.

I also was born and raised in NYC and went to public school from kindergarten through graduate school, and I think that NYC offers wonderful opportunities for children, both educationally and otherwise. One unique aspect of the NYC school system is that we have elite public schools that are as good or better than the…

Getting yourself and your sexual partner tested every six months definitely doesn't eliminate all risk. So, no. That's not what I said.

Maybe they got tested? Anyway, there is no magic period of time that means you can definitely trust someone. You can be married for decades and still get HIV from an unfaithful spouse. But you'll miss out on life if your sole focus is on eliminating all risk.

Thanks, I appreciate it. And, yes, luckily the husband part of the wedding turned out to be a win. :)

My wedding was totally a no-win situation. My parents were completely against the whole idea of a big wedding (they were each other's second spouses and both felt like they had gotten roped into awful first marriages by wedding plans that they felt they couldn't cancel). My husband's mother, on the other hand, had…

I sympathize - I've gotten all kinds of weird judginess because my husband didn't buy me a giant diamond engagement ring. I'm the primary breadwinner now, so I definitely wouldn't have wanted him going into debt to buy me jewelry, especially since the koa-wood ring he gave me was lovely and had meaning for us. But…

Why can't all these serial cheaters just marry each other and have happy open marriages, instead of marrying people who want monogamy and making them miserable? Lady with the "don't ask, don't tell" deal sounds cool. These other people just suck at life.

If you had joined the military as a single mother, you wouldn't have had to sign over custody of your child to anyone. You do have a create a Family Care Plan, which designates someone who will care for your child if you are deployed, but you don't give up custody - it's a temporary arrangement.

I would SO watch that show if it were a thing. Also, you are seriously talented.

I never said any of it was unclear. I said that I disagree - specifically with your comments about her lack of self-respect.

No, I don't think people need to be relaxed about cheating. Never said that. My point is that you have no idea what's going on in their marriage, so it's weird to diagnose this highly successful woman with "lack of self-respect" because she chose to stay married to the father of her child.

I think it also has to do with the fact that male scientists, hardcore gamers, computer programmers, etc., rarely excel at stereotypically masculine activities like sports or hunting, and so some of them rely on their intellectual activities as proof of their masculinity. When women turn up who are equally good at…

The fact that he is sometimes rude and obnoxious to strangers doesn't mean he behaves that way towards his wife and child. You don't know these people. You don't know what goes on in their marriage.

He's the father of her child. It doesn't show a "lack of self-respect" to want to stay with him for that reason alone. Also, he didn't actually have sex with any other women, as far as we know. Not everyone considers cybersex to be cheating. I certainly wouldn't be okay with my husband doing it, but I would be a lot…

Maybe you should start going around topless, in that case, since the rationale for always concealing women's breasts in Western cultures is basically the same as for wearing hijab in Muslim cultures.