I'm assuming you haven't read anything I've posted after this. Nothing about my comment nor the original one specifically says that all white males are part of the group that makes horrible comments. It's more the reverse, people who make these comments tend to be white males. Whether the original comment is useful, I…

In general, I really hate the comments that "Oh this happens in every industry, nbd", but I also think it's incorrect to single out gaming entirely. Certainly there are things about gaming that make the problem worse. But I don't think the gaming industry has issues that are very much different than tech in general…

I don't actually know! I first saw it floating around somewhere on Gawker media a few months ago during the batch of harassment cases during convention season.

This. The situation here is bad, and I'm glad we're talking about it, especially since so many people don't understand why it's so bad.

Changing the subject is a pretty obvious move that the conversation was uncomfortable.

I think it's easy to interpret something like the original comment as an attack on all white males. But, I don't know. I work with probabilities all the time. The original comment is not literally an attack on white males.

A google search of "Rachel Edidin Kotaku" yields only this article. And an article from io9 where she's quoted.

I mean, I agree. I think I missed the phrasing "I don't think it helps". It absolutely doesn't help. It's mostly just a way for people to pat themselves on the back for not being giant assholes.

I shared it just for that purpose!

Rereading your original comment, I'd agree that it's not helpful to talk about it in those terms. What the best way to introduce the idea of privilege is to people who are hostile against the word? I certainly don't know, but generally calling out privilege shuts people's brains down.

You can hate people on the internet, but it's not very useful to say that women just need to stand up for themselves. Women didn't create this problem. It's the industry as a whole which created the situation where reporting harassment can end your career.

But many of these people are going to be white males and not just because of base-rates. The people who don't understand why this is a problem are people who haven't experienced micro-aggressions (or are unwilling to come to terms with their experiences). For Kotaku, the group that has to worry least about these…

How is this not harassment? He used his position of power (he had the ability to make connections for this woman) in order to make inappropriate and unwelcome sexual advances. It may have been only one incident, but it was persistent behavior, continuing even after she had left.

I'm curious why you think public/private is a worthy distinction here. Is it ok to harass someone if you don't let anyone besides the harassee know? Would it be horrible if you raped someone at a party where everyone saw, but ok if you raped them in a basement with no witnesses?

I literally thought he said "You shanked my pokemon".

The obvious solution will be to find a VPN in another country that you can log into in order to hide the fact that you're ordering from Japan. If Steam thinks you're in the US, they won't charge Japanese prices/taxes.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I don't honestly have any advice, but if you haven't read it, here's an article about a woman's fight against a revenge-porn mogul.

TJ's tends to carry a lot of German whites at least in my area.

This show had such the best openings and endings. HOW CAN YOU TOP THE MELODRAMA!?!