"Children aren't the more moral choice or anything. There's actually a really, really good argument that having children is a supremely selfish choice."

sweet. Jesus.

Yeah I dated a professional soccer player once. He was gorgeous, generous, sweet, and kind.

Ugh, VOMIT. Can you imagine being so privileged in some ways, yet so totally unaware of how you sound and devoid of normal human empathy that you'd walk around openly saying something like that? What a dirtbag.

Ugh, awful! When I was in HS I waitressed at this local diner type of place and our manager was married with kids, a raging coke head, openly bisexual, and openly cheated on his wife on the regular with pretty much anyone he could get his hands on. It was just sort of known that if he asked you to come to the basement…

It is so frustrating. But the guys who stiff you because you didn't give them your number are also the guys who think $3 off of $25 is a really good tip. I'll keep my number to myself and take the $0.

Agreed! Also, I read a study once that suggested people who swear more are also more honest and reliable than those who don't. Fuck yes, keep cussing and stay true to your bad self. :)

Why not? Saying "I feel" or "My sense is that", etc. is indicative of right brain processing, whereas "I think" is more left-brain. Right brain is more intuitive than left; could lead to some very interesting insights.

In the words of the late, great Flo Kennedy, are you the alternative?

Because your gender, class, sexual orientation, etc. all inform the way you "experience" your race. No matter if those parts of your identity are oppressed or not. (And vice versa, all the way around.)

My cousin works in a meat-packing factory, specifically one that packs hot dogs. He refuses to eat meat. Won't tell us what goes in them, either.

I agree, and I also think the fact that the women act as though they enjoy being humiliated and degraded is what gets a lot of men off.

There's no denying white women have that unconscious (and conscious) bias against black men, but so do white people of any and all genders. Women of any race have the right to mistrust strange men of any race, just as people of color of any gender have the right to mistrust strange white people of any gender.

I'm not putting words in your mouth. I posted: "Why do you assume biological family = healthy family?" and you responded: "I'm not assuming anything. I'm talking basic statistics here...That's reality."

Oh stop. Nowhere am I being "needlessly judgmental". There's nothing wrong with wishing more parents would adopt.

It could very well be that children raised by their biological parents have fewer mental health/behavioral problems than kids in the adoption system, but that still doesn't mean it's a statistical reality that a biological family is by definition a healthy, or even healthier, family. And unless you can show me the…

I'm not saying no one should have their own kids. Just that I wish more people would adopt rather than continuing to have their own.

Actually, I wonder why anyone who has kids with their own genes didn't adopt, not just those who have fertility "issues". The world is overpopulated and there are so many babies and children out there who need homes. Yes, as humans we have an innate drive to procreate and pass down our genes. But as humans, we've also…

don't forget the middle class white people!

hahaha perfect.