The advice is straight wrong. If the author of the letter doesn’t like the way the servers act at a restaurant it is on them to not go there. And the serving staff is doing nothing wrong,. Restaurants have different atmospheres and the servers will act accordingly. The servers weren’t doing anything wrong if that is…

There’s no more decorum, like: “How is the food?” Instead we get: “Are we stoked on the grilled octopus? Killer, right?” or “Man, you crushed that Negroni.” Last week, a server referred to my wife as “dude.”

Another thing that’s annoying is when the server asks, Have you dined with us before . . . No? . . . we do things a little differently here so let me explain.

we found the douche

Or this guy...

And the ones who started that lingo probably still surf and are older than you

I think the only correct answer to the writer is this:

Sorry, friend. 40 is old. It was old when you weren’t 40, and you just don’t want to admit that you got that category now. Be who you are.

As a 37 year old: Hey letter-writer: FUCK YOU. What the fuck is wrong with you?

It’s fascinating how many people who complain about ‘special snowflakes’ expect special treatment in situations like this. Gen-X are the *worst* offenders, but there’s a fair share of boomers that expect Buffalo Wild Wings to be like The Fucking Four Seasons...

Millenial internet lingo? Really? People have been saying “killer” and “stoked” and “dude” for a long, long time. Especially in California. And the ones who started that lingo probably still surf and are older than you. I get that it’s annoying to you but maybe you could relax a little and stop blaming millenials for…

I’d 100% lay it on even thicker just to make sure you never come back. Get over yourself dude.

Agreed.  I’m a 34-yr-old female lawyer who works in corporate America and I call both men and women “dude” and “guys”. This letter writer is uptight as hell.

Hi! Well I am currently a waitress have been one for a long time over the years. Being that I am from the south in the carolinas its yes maam and no maam to older guest for the most part but to a younger trendy crowd #youguys is popular with the waitressing route. Its not to harm anyone at all it is to be polite but by…

This. He didn’t mention it, but the tone of the waiter leads me to believe he’s dining at some sort of higher end casual dining restaurant and not like, Jean-Georges. You want pretentious treatment, that's the type of restaurant you need to go to. It's fucking obnoxious as far as I'm concerned. But there will always…

Why the fuck is he hacking on millennials when his examples are pure Spicoli, a movie made in nineteen-fucking-eighty-two?
If you want to be annoyed at servers being slangy and informal, fine, but don’t get all generationally bitchy about it. 

Counterpoint to the advice. A restaurant will establish their personality and how they expect their staff to act. If a server were overly familiar with a patron in a super WASP-y, white tablecloth, jacket and tie place, I could see it being a problem. Dining at a place that is geared towards a younger clientele or a…

I know this person thinks they’re 40, but they’re actually 8359 years old. Amazing

Last week, a server referred to my wife as “dude.”