I'm a black woman who has dated interracially. I still get annoyed when I pass a BM/WF couple on the street and the guy stares me down with that little smirk. *shrugs*

Yeah. But then I think about how my best relationships were slow burns with guys I had known for a while, and I wonder how many potentials I overlook because there's no instant attraction. Maybe I'm just not wired for the immediate intimacy that's required for online dating. Or maybe I'm just not meeting hot or…

If your goal is to meet a long-term partner, the LAST thing you want to do is move to a city with a lot of singles. Based on my experience living in two of these cities (New York and now DC), a lot of options means a lot of people always on the lookout for something better. And/or a hookup culture that simply doesn't…

How many dates will you go on before you accept that you're just not feeling it? I've been trying not to make snap judgments (like deciding whether I'm attracted to someone within the first few minutes), so I have a two-date rule. A meh first date always gets a second chance.

Yeah, let's give Apple Bottom jeans a run for their money :-).

I spent this entire article thinking, nah, if your goal is to meet a long-term partner, the LAST thing you want to do is move to a city with a lot of singles. Based on my experience living in two of these cities (New York and now DC), a lot of options means a lot of people always on the lookout for something better.…

For realz, lots of bad performances today. I wish the team event had been after the individuals. I think it zapped skaters' energy more than anticipated. And a team event just before the close of the games might have given an extra ratings boost for people experiencing Olympics fatigue.

Carnival and capoeira. Beaches and bikini waxes.

I feel like you might as well be a high school dropout if you have "just" a bachelor's degree and are trying to date or even just socialize in the DC area.* I can't count the number of times I've gotten side-eye when I mention I have just a BA. It actually seems to offend some people who spent tens of thousands of…

I'm going to spend this five-day weekend watching ALL the Sochi events. VPN for complete Canadian / British coverage for the win! Suck it, NBC.

Laughing my black ass off at this article and all of these comments.

I think there's a difference between the mutual fadeaway (when neither party is feeling it, thus neither party attempts to contact the other) and poofing as a dick move. In this particular case, he did in fact go out of his way to convince me that we were great together and that he definitely wanted to see me more,…

POOF!

I know nobody owes anybody an explanation for not wanting to see someone again. I honestly don't care what the reason is, nor do I have any desire to hear it. All I want to know is that you're not an option before I spend a week trying to figure out whether I'm ever going to hear from you again. Especially since…

Yoga!


This combines taking a class / joining a sports activity / finding a religious community, depending on what you're looking for, so it gets its own listing. It can take a bit of work to find a good studio that has a social community, but it's worth the effort. Try to find one that holds events, dinners, etc, if…

Depends on what you consider expensive. They're often on sale for under $60 at 6pm.com.

Ballet flats and yoga pants.

Do you like most of the people in your life? I have a couple of thoughts on this.

It's Twelfth Night and the start of Carnival season! The rest of the U.S. needs to take a cue from New Orleans and the Gulf Coast (and Venice and Rio and, like, every other place in the world touched by those crazy Catholics way back when) and party it up for the next couple of months. There shall be no talk of…

Right. The only reason you'd click on a profile now is if you liked the picture. OKC's big thing was being the thinking person's website. Lots of room to express yourself through profile essays, questions, and quizzes (which also seem to be no longer displayed). Transcending the knee-jerk "hot or not" that other…

Is there any reason OKCupid took away the ability to preview the text of profiles in search results? Now the only way to see if someone has anything interesting to say is to make a snap judgment on the profile pic. Isn't OKC supposed to be the dating site for *smart* people? I feel like it's catering more and more…