CSantClaire's discussions

Actually you are incorrect in some ways. jay75 was specifically referring to fluctuating fat deposits that occurs with puberty, menstrual cycling, pregnancy, lactation etc. These are specific spikes in hormones and often result in permanent changes. Also, the widening of hips during puberty cannot be prevented. We…

For some people, their identity is tied to their hair. Some women are blessed with gorgeous locks, but not looks. I am one of those. My natural hair is the only thing that makes me recognizable and memorable. When I tie it back vs wear it down, people do NOT recognize or remember my face. It's all I have to feel…

This is an amazing perspective and also incredibly insightful. I wish this was a story on the mainpage, because as a Canadian it made me understand the many important and overlooked issues created by the US shutdown. Thank you for sharing it.

You are right. It's certainly no coincidence that I am in the midst of changing both my job and coach at the same time. Things with my husband hasn't changed much, but that's about it, although it is what really matters most. I am literally invisible and forgotten among my peers, clients and colleagues, and my coach…

Amen. I am 28 and noticed this year I am pretty much invisible. Had no idea it would happen this soon.

I find the EXACT sane thing with high heels. Every article here that reports on the damage wearing high heels causes and you get a full onslaught of "I love high heels, don't judge me." But just as you said with makeup, wearing heels affects the expectations for other to wear heels, and places women who do not wear…

Agreed. My sister used to take it a step further by freezing it, then mixing it, then she would suck on her spoonful of yogurt by drawing it in and out of her mouth until it was melted. It was disgusting.

My husband is the yogurter in the family too! I get a cold? "You didn't eat yogurt." Bladder infection? "You didn't eat yogurt." Yeast infection? "You didn't eat yogurt." Headache? "You didn't eat yogurt." You name it, if I have some physical issue, it is because I didn't eat yogurt. I like it but I can't digest it,…

In my mixed race household, this indeed was par for the course. I had to secretly buy my own tampons before I was even sexually active. Her answer to swimming during menstruation? "Just don't go!" rather than "Here's a tampon!"

My husband once admitted that before we moved in together he didn't change his sheets until he started to sneeze, and then waited a couple weeks longer until he felt his skin crawling with mites and stuff.

I stopped using the communal coin washers here when I found out three families on my floor were using them daily to wash poopy reusable diapers. I had wondered for weeks where that faint smell of poop on my stuff was coming from...

Yeah but you don't have to sink to her low. It wasn't necessary.

Plus, if high heels were truly necessary for a professional, polished look, men would be wearing them too.

I totally agree with this. Unless you are a model the appearance of feet have fuck all to do with someone's ability to be great at their job, so why in the world is it a point of debate?

Yeah, you could have got your point across without being equally judgey towards women who were flats. I agreed with you up until then. As a professional who CANNOT wear heals for many health reasons, I already have to deal with the attitude that I am "ugly, short, juvenile, less professional, walk like a kid, bad…

I get pressured all the f-ing time to wear heels and I hate it. I cannot, CANNOT wear them. I am so sick and tired of being made to feel like I am unprofessional, unsophisticated or lacking class because I choose not to wear them. It is impossible to find lovely looking shoes with a reasonable sole and comfortable…

I wrote a similar comment. I agree 100% with you- so many people have HSV 1 and 2 the stigma is unwarranted. It is so contagious that I would not be surprised at all if everyone at one point tests positive for the antibodies. I have actually had bladder and yeast infections that were 1000% more complicated and…

Unfortunately the only comment on the herpes question is the one where everyone is feeding the troll, so I have to start a new one which won't get seen because I am always in the gray. Hopefully it helps someone though.

Great article. And I am only just starting to realize how messed up things are in my own head. I am the wrong kind of everything with my body- too curvy too be thin, too thin to be curvy, and too athletic to be womanly for ANYONE. The sport I train in is very weight focused for valid reasons (weight classes) so I know…

I am definitely going to bring it up to my doctor the next time I go! Thanks :)